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  • We’re both Eastern Europeans in Western Europe, so not visible minorities until we open our mouths.

    We were recently house hunting, and my wife is the sole earner.

    I can’t count how many times we had to explain that, or how many times we were disadvantaged against people with the opposite situation. When we applied for a joint bank account with both of us working, guess whose name they put on the account. Or try getting hired without getting asked about your family situation. For her, it always comes up in “small talk” in interviews, very obliquely of course. For me, maybe six months to one year into the job.

    On the other hand, she opens the street door every time there’s a heavy delivery, as they don’t try to have her carry heavy cargo to our apartment like they do to me, despite it being paid for.



  • That said, it’s not a lovely thing here either. They absolutely do discriminate on how your name sounds, in some places being asked for a picture is still the norm, my landlord literally had to see our engagement photos before renting to us, and I could continue.

    Back where I emigrated from (similar reasons to yours), there is a saying “the fences are not made of sausages over there either”. But the thing is, they are not made of shit like back home. There is a valid reason you came here, and I think you’ve made the right choice. I know I have.

    Employers suck ass everywhere. You can do it. We’re fingers crossed for you from over the Channel.