Could be a partner, roommate, coworker, or somebody you volunteered with. They could have stopped for any reason from leaving, getting sick or hurt or even dying to just getting sick of doing that one thing and stopping.
Could be a partner, roommate, coworker, or somebody you volunteered with. They could have stopped for any reason from leaving, getting sick or hurt or even dying to just getting sick of doing that one thing and stopping.
Will they be able to afford their own place and have access to healthcare? I’ve got siblings that have failed to launch even after several attempts. It’s possible this isn’t a failure of parenting.
But if it is fixable, you may want to check out William Glasser’s writings on the workless (I forget what books of his he writes about it in). Be warned that it’s not mainstream psychology and I don’t generally think that his views on medication and several other things are good, but the specific ideas about how to deal with a household member that doesn’t contribute or take care of themselves might have something useful for you. From what I can remember, it’s things like making ingredients available but not prepared foods so they get into the habit of doing things. (Naturally, this is a super bad idea if there’s a different issue like depression that should be dealt with first.) That may be difficult to do with apps and streaming services where there’s very little between a person and food/entertainment, but you might get some new ideas.
It’s still early days on them being in a position to afford a place, and in the US healthcare is a fucking abomination, so it’s going to take some real effort to reach a point of independence.
We’re in no hurry to move anyone out. It’s still early enough that we planet of time to wire in work on skills and such. I’m mostly worried about the general attitude more than individual skills though. His sense of what it takes to keep yourself afloat in the world and little open desire to achieve independence is just worrying at this point. Likely I’m being too worried at this stage, but I’d rather turn the ship in a positive direction earlier and easier rather than later and with more difficulty.