Feel free to share any life experiences or anecdotes.

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    My old boss once told me: “when you think you want to marry them… First live with them two years… And when you’re sure… Wait two more years.”

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      5 months ago

      Until they leave you and find someone else who is ready to commit.

      Sometimes if you expect the worst; you make the worst. Get out of your own way.

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        If you’re in a good relationship but they leave because they couldn’t wait 4 years to get married, then you fucking dodged a bullet. Jesus fucking christ.

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          Someone willing to put up with your shit and commit to you is a bullet to be dodged? Mmmk…

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            5 months ago

            I was with my wife for 10 years before I proposed. We have the best relationship of anyone we know. I know plenty of people who married after a couple of years and are fucking miserable.

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              5 months ago

              So you only count anecdotal evidence that ensures your paranoia about people and apply it to every situation. K.

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                5 months ago

                Paranoia wtf? I’ve formed my opinions from my life experiences, are you trying to tell me you’ve done peer reviewed research to decide what makes a good relationship?

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                  Well you certainly don’t that applies for everyone. And for all I know you, you could be super negative, project the worst scenarios only and/or you could be the problem in all your relationships and this is the excuse you landed on for maintaining a delusion.

                  You could be lying about having a wife just so you can ‘win’ an argument online with a total stranger online.

                  Not a far reach considering your response here.

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                    5 months ago

                    lol do you always assume anyone who disagrees with you is acting in bad faith? Whst a convenient way to shield yourself from uncomfortable truths.

                    No wonder you’re desperate to lock someone into a relationship with you asap, you sound nuts.

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        5 months ago

        why do you see marriage as the only acceptable form of commitment? just curious. in my opinion it takes more commitment to stay without legal ties involved.