Enjoy your health and exercise. I thought I was in pain in the 20s and 30s but then it’s worse in your 40s. I wish I ate better and exercise more.
Learn to trust your gut.
You’ve seen this advice many times and it’s sounded silly every time and so you’ve ignore it.
The advice is, stop ignoring this advice. If you don’t know what it means, ask questions.
I dunno man, my gut says everybody secretly hates me, I’m an imposter at my job, the world isn’t worth saving and having kids is a fallacy because they’ll just grow up in the resource wars, among other very negative things, I’ve learned to trust my gut maybe half the time
Well it’s not that I’m ignoring the advice, it’s that sometimes gut tells me it’s a fart but then it’s way more than what my pants bargained for.
Don’t get married before you’re 25
Around 30 years old your body stops healing, injuries are just things you live with forever now, and old injuries you thought had healed come back as forever pain… just keep that in mind when doing stupid shit… This includes injuries to your lungs and mind from things like smoking and drugs.
If you want to help people in any way, get rich first. No one will pay you enough to live off of for helping people… Better to bring your own wealth to the table and hopefully be able to help people for real with it.
If you don’t already know how, learn to code asap… In 20 years, programming will be one of the few jobs left… Maybe
Use sunscreen and lotion up. That’s the best way to prevent looking like an old catcher’s mitt by the time you are 40.
My partner played lots of outdoor sport in his youth so he has some skin damage but from his mid 20s when I met him I encouraged proper sun safe behaviours and to moisturise. We live in Australia for Christ sake, this sun is not fucking around.
He’s got mates of all ages but some of the blokes in their late 20s seem to think looking after their skin is a feminine trait and they play outdoor sports. When he’s been out with these guys, people think he’s the youngest despite being over 10 years their senior.
It’s so silly. Put some sunblock on and moisturize. It’s not that hard.
University isn’t intended to get A grades, university it’s for you to make connections with other people. A grades are good but a good business partner can save you life.
agreed, but usually those that get A stick with those that get A and from my experience you don’t want to do business with those…
Also regarding university figure out your reasons for studying whatever it is you’re going to study before going into massive debt for it. Too many people my age went to university a bit aimlessly because going to university after high school is what was supposed to happen. Then they spend the next decade or two kicking themselves about their debt and how they were naive about what they studied.
Now days you can get your college courses paid for by your employer if you have a good one. A “foot in the door” full time job might get you a free Masters or better depending on who you work for and their benefits. Many companies will reimburse your college degree while you work for them. Be picky about who you work for.
Research your professional value and have the courage to go after it if you are not being paid what you are worth.
I worked 17 years for the same company. I was promoted 4 times during those years and received a few extra pay increases along the way, but I was underpaid as soon as I took the first promotion and the gap increased with each additional promotion. I probably walked away from more than $100k in lifetime earnings, plus interest, by sticking with the company.
I should have changed companies at least once and probably twice. You don’t have to be on a promotion path to run into this. It could be you were underpaid on day 1, but you needed the job or you didn’t have experience. That’s fine, but once you have the experience and have proven yourself, find out what the market rate is for your role and ask for it, be ready to show your research. If you don’t get it, start applying for other jobs.
Don’t be afraid to talk to your peers about salary. If you are making less, you know there is a gap you can go after (just don’t name your coworker when you ask for more, do market research and make it impersonal/just business). If you are making more, pass this advice on to your coworker.
If you are being paid fairly for the work you are doing, but know you can do more, start looking into what it takes to make a move. For example, you might be the best fast food or retail worker the world has ever had, but the job only pays so much. What else might you be good at? You could look for training in a trade or try to find an entry level role in a company that has a wider set of tasks available that offers a growth path.
I agree with a lot of the comments here about saving and investing and keeping expenses down, but growing your earnings is typically easier than shrinking your rent. It still isn’t easy though, especially if you need to relocate to earn more.
- Get an exercise routine now and keep it
- Take care of your teeth
- Invest in your retirement now
- Keep your mind sharp
- Eat right most of the time
The old don’t stick your dick in crazy is actually good advice but also, unwanted pregnancy can change your life in s very negative way.
The sex in your imagination is never going to live up to reality. Porn and even just popular culture paints a picture that’s impractical irl.
Don’t let others control your life. If someone is only making you hurt, cut them off clean.
This especially is for blood relations! Only scared old people say that shit about obeying your elders! If your family or immediate “friends” only use or abuse, get out fast!
There’s always a place and tribe for you, don’t let assholes dictate who you are or “should be”.
It took 30 years and most of my physical health to learn that one! Injured spine, nerve damage, financial issues … All from the group I grew up around being hideously toxic.
I’ve been free of them for about 5 years now and am finally healing, both physically where I can and mentally. Financially too, just slower.
I now have loving girlfriends, an amazing and healthy daughter, and I’ve been able to start reconnecting with the people that really clicked with me but were forced away by my family and their friends for being too different from them. I barely got a year and a half with my best friend I’d list touch with before he suddenly was diagnosed with and died from pancreatic cancer.
Don’t waste your time on people who drain you with nothing to return! You and the people who improve you don’t have the time and energy to spare!
Don’t push when you shit, hemmorrhoids suck
+1. I used to think it was just something that happened to old people, until it happened to me
I wish I knew how I went from having extremely painful hemroids in my early 20s to having painless hemroids ever since. But I highly recommend it, whatever it was.
I sneak into your bedroom every night with a syringe of novicain.
Invest in yourself.
Increase your skills, weather it’s university, an apprenticeship or on the job training. Your skills compound over time.
And as another poster said, take care of your teeth.
(44) look, listen, you don’t have to figure everything out right now. There will come a time in your late twenties and early thirties that you’ll feel like you’ve missed the boat, that you’re lagging behind, that it’s too late to still start or switch… And then you’ll get over it in your late 30s again. Finally realise that life doesn’t end and in fact that there is a lot left after 40. And that’s when they call it the midlife crisis, it’s not a crisis. The crisis is in your late twenties and early thirties.
The best raise you can get is by changing jobs. Businesses are not going to be loyal to you, there’s no benefit to being loyal to them - add either a customer or employee. Embrace and welcome change.
When you get a pay raise immediately increase your 401k (or equivalent retirement fund) by at least 1%.
Enjoy your 20s, they don’t last long but the person you are today is who you will feel like you are in 20 years. Don’t rush your life. There’s plenty of time to get married and have kids. You and your kids will benefit from you having an extra decade of experience before raising another human.
Project yourself 20 years into the future. Imagine yourself saying this to present day you. Then act on that advice. Much of these suggestions can apply to anyone at almost any age.
Not meant as offensive at all or any way to discredit you, but this is horrible/useless advice. Because humans mostly don’t think longer term, especially with younger people. A LOT is about the short term satisfaction. E.g. a lot of people know alcohol is so damaging but the short term benefits are just so big
I’m 39, but this is mine: do you just feel kinda “blah” all the time, don’t enjoy anything including things you used to enjoy, and can’t motivate yourself to do anything? That might be depression, and it might also be undiagnosed ADHD. The sooner you learn about that and get help with it, the better you’ll feel and the more effective you’ll be (and the less you’ll let down the people you love).
This is me at 42
