I do not, no, I know they can’t. I just don’t like the attitude. If it’s a joke, it’s definitely weird considering the LGBTQ community is under constant pressure to conform to binary gender roles from the rest of society. But then here they’re doing the same thing? Even as a joke? Especially if OP is not part of said community, but I assume they are.

I just don’t think it’s funny, because I know they don’t enjoy it either. It’s distasteful in my opinion, because the respect needs to be both ways.