My friends do this to me, and I actually do give it a shot. I’m always excited to see what they like, because I love them and want them to feel like I’m interested in their stuff. I don’t always like it, but I do try.
I recommend something to my friends and they never even attempt to watch it or listen, or read or whatever.
If someone you care about asks you to take a look at something, you could at least try. If you don’t, you’re just an asshole. Like my friends. Now I don’t even bother looking into anything they recommend. Still love ‘em though. 🤷
Quite some years ago I offhandedly recommended a band to a friend, and like a week later she texted me thanking me for the recommendation, and gave me her thoughts. I thought that was really cool of her, because it’s all too common that recommendations are ignored. I decided then that I would do my best to actually follow up on recommendations from friends and then try to let them know what I thought. It’s a practice that’s generally very well received.
I also then decided to be more honest about whether or not I actually will check something out. For example, I don’t really listen to podcasts so I’m pretty upfront with people that it’s not likely I’ll listen to whatever they recommend. I think it’s had a ripple effect of generally being more honest in my relationships, which has been transformative. I highly recommend it.
I’m as honest as it gets, unfortunately, and they aren’t. So, when I say I’ll check it out, I do, but when they say they’ll check it out, they never even tried at all.
Yeah I just don’t take it personally. I get what it’s like, people have their tastes and aren’t necessarily quick to try something on a recommendation. Honestly I don’t think it’s something you can really expect of people, and certainly it shouldn’t be so transactional.
Oh, no. I hope I didn’t come off like it’s transactional.
See, to me, when I love and respect you, I want to see what gives you joy, what makes you tick and how you think. It makes me happy to see my friends happy when I take part or observe their hobbies and interests. It’s cute. I guess I’m more bummed that I don’t have that kind of friend myself, if that makes more sense?
Ah yes, okay I see what you’re saying. I think I’m very fortunate to have a couple of friends who care about media the way that I do, and we know each other’s tastes and take recommendations seriously. I have a lot of other friends that are absolutely not like that, so I guess it’s an individual sorta thing ya know.
I’m a loner, so the ones I do have are the only ones I could keep. I don’t always have the energy for talking and hanging out long. It’s an issue I am, unfortunately, very aware of. :/
My friends do this to me, and I actually do give it a shot. I’m always excited to see what they like, because I love them and want them to feel like I’m interested in their stuff. I don’t always like it, but I do try.
I recommend something to my friends and they never even attempt to watch it or listen, or read or whatever.
If someone you care about asks you to take a look at something, you could at least try. If you don’t, you’re just an asshole. Like my friends. Now I don’t even bother looking into anything they recommend. Still love ‘em though. 🤷
Quite some years ago I offhandedly recommended a band to a friend, and like a week later she texted me thanking me for the recommendation, and gave me her thoughts. I thought that was really cool of her, because it’s all too common that recommendations are ignored. I decided then that I would do my best to actually follow up on recommendations from friends and then try to let them know what I thought. It’s a practice that’s generally very well received.
I also then decided to be more honest about whether or not I actually will check something out. For example, I don’t really listen to podcasts so I’m pretty upfront with people that it’s not likely I’ll listen to whatever they recommend. I think it’s had a ripple effect of generally being more honest in my relationships, which has been transformative. I highly recommend it.
I’m as honest as it gets, unfortunately, and they aren’t. So, when I say I’ll check it out, I do, but when they say they’ll check it out, they never even tried at all.
Yeah I just don’t take it personally. I get what it’s like, people have their tastes and aren’t necessarily quick to try something on a recommendation. Honestly I don’t think it’s something you can really expect of people, and certainly it shouldn’t be so transactional.
Oh, no. I hope I didn’t come off like it’s transactional.
See, to me, when I love and respect you, I want to see what gives you joy, what makes you tick and how you think. It makes me happy to see my friends happy when I take part or observe their hobbies and interests. It’s cute. I guess I’m more bummed that I don’t have that kind of friend myself, if that makes more sense?
Ah yes, okay I see what you’re saying. I think I’m very fortunate to have a couple of friends who care about media the way that I do, and we know each other’s tastes and take recommendations seriously. I have a lot of other friends that are absolutely not like that, so I guess it’s an individual sorta thing ya know.
I’m a loner, so the ones I do have are the only ones I could keep. I don’t always have the energy for talking and hanging out long. It’s an issue I am, unfortunately, very aware of. :/
But, hey. Thank you for the actual conversation.