Friend relapsed on drugs. It happens a lot. Rehab doesn’t work. It’s eating me up. I know they have to make the changes too. I know this doesn’t rest in my hands alone. They need to want to be clean.
Friend relapsed on drugs. It happens a lot. Rehab doesn’t work. It’s eating me up. I know they have to make the changes too. I know this doesn’t rest in my hands alone. They need to want to be clean.
If anyone knew the answer there would be no addicts.
In the end, their drive to sobriety must be consistently stronger than the drive for drugs. There’s no moral system with the power to counteract that. And it’s not a moral failure that they can’t.
In other contexts people love to blather about thr power of discipline over motivation. Well this proves the lie. It has to come down to motivation, consistently. And you probably don’t have the power to motivate them to consistently stay sober. You can’t make sobriety consistently more enticing than getting high. The rest of us are more enamored by what sobriety offers. We are not morally stronger. We just prefer being sober, consistently (or some of us prefer other, less-destructive forms of intoxication).
Sorry about your friend. Take care of yourself.