• paddirn@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Don’t girls like guys who can make them laugh?

    Not that I would know what girls actually like.

  • henfredemars@infosec.pubEnglish
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    1 year ago

    When I met my wife, she was massively overweight, no job no money, and because of crippling depression it was extremely hard for her to get the motivation to do things she actually enjoys, let alone date. Of course, her being a woman, I believe she was judged especially harshly for her physical appearance. People had the gall to tell me I was making a mistake. Someone like you can do so much better. Years of working through her insecurities as the first step to getting to a healthier place in body and mind. Sometimes she struggled being there for me because she was hardly there for herself.

    What I’m saying is sometimes you don’t know what you want. I don’t really believe in leagues. I believe in finding someone who makes you happy. And when you’re happy, you stop caring what other people think.

  • Einar@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    What does “out of my league” even mean?

    The concept of someone being “out of my league” is a myth. We really should stop putting people in these categories and instead see everyone as an equal challenge. By labeling someone as “out of my league,” I am limiting myself and degrading the people who I think are “in my league.” It’s better to focus on people we’re genuinely interested in and not place them on such a high pedestal that they feel they need to be worshipped. Rather place them high enough to think they are prized. The people we date are the ones who we think are great, and we believe they could make us great too.

    I feel we should remember that no one is out of anyone’s league. We should rather focus our attention on a person we’re genuinely interested in and challenge ourselves.

    You never know what might happen until you try.