• abbotsbury@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    For many women, it is a regular occurance. Perhaps if you are frequently being assumed an asshole, maybe you are the problem?

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      9 months ago

      That’s the thing though, I am not the problem, it’s some other asshole that can’t take rejection. He is the problem. Two different people.

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        9 months ago

        The idiotic implication that the behavior of other human beings is your responsibility because they’re the same sex as you is frustratingly common.

        The irony is that the people who say stuff like that magically realize how invalid the logic is when it comes to any other demographic–you’d never catch them telling black people that black crime is exclusively their responsibility, for example.

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      9 months ago

      Perhaps if you are frequently being assumed an asshole, maybe you are the problem?

      This is a phenomenally stupid sentence, lmao. Maybe he’s the problem if people frequently ASSUME something about him? If they ASSUME?

      Wow.

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          8 months ago

          Would you also tell a black guy “Perhaps if you are frequently being assumed a criminal, maybe you are the problem?”

          Somehow, I have a feeling you wouldn’t. But it’s the exact same ‘logic’.

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      9 months ago

      He’s obviously the problem. Classic victim blaming behavior. Incel in the making there.

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      9 months ago

      Or, perhaps both genders have assholes among them and we, as a society, have lost our ability to communicate with the opposite (or same) sex as caring, feeding human beings.

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        9 months ago

        I agree, I was just flipping back the dumb logic of “it isnt widespread, and if it is, it is your fault”

        We should communicate more, and the comic is a pretty good communication of why women are often (or rather, seem often) dodgy/cagey with men who are interested in them.