Ah, reminiscent of Maddox.

http://www.iambetterthanyourkids.com/

You might want to revisit it. She does provide a number of different ways to try dealing with them (including distancing yourself as one approach), and your own relationship tendencies. That’s what the last couple chapters are all about, actionable next steps. I personally walked away with a few new mental and behavioral approaches to try.

Nor does she characterize them (us?) into two groups, in fact she goes out of her way to explain that nearly every person this applies to has a mix of traits of differing degrees from internalizing and externalizing attributes. She also provides a number of exercises for helping to self-identify where you (and your parents) fall in the mix of various experiences, attributes, and behaviors. I didn’t take away any “good” / “bad” connotations, but rather various examples throughout the spectrum (including the extremes) of how abuse and reactions thereafter can vary greatly.

I interpreted it as her personal experience comes from her professional training, and treating many others. Granted she doesn’t say anything about her own parents, but honestly that would seem unprofessional to me if she had made it about herself.

I’m not sure what form it would take, in terms of sympathy from a psychology book, but she didn’t seem unsympathetic to me, just straightforward and sticking to facts.

Granted, I spent $0 on it since it was a library book. $35 does seem steep. I’d say like $15 would be appropriate.

Oooh…I’m intrigued! Thank you, I’ve just added it to my library list.

Mine are self-absorbed narcissists, so no. However what I really wanted to share is this book I read recently that was eye-opening to say the least (someone on Lemmy recommended it in another post):

“Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents,” by Lindsay Gibson.

Good luck out there.

I’d like to shit on her lap and go, “Hey what’s the big deal, it’s only a couple hours of your life or whatever. Just go wash it off, nbd.”

I wouldn’t think so on the movie thing. I think it would have to be a video rental store, although not necessarily specifically named Blockbuster. Technically I still “rent” movies at my library through their Kanopy streaming service, but I don’t think that’s in the spirit of the list.

Same. I’m actually surprised at the number of people who have owned them based on these responses. I used them at the library, and probably had a digital one that came with a computer (like Encarta or something), but never owned a full set, which is what I’d guess this list means.

I’m at 1 as well for never owning an encyclopedia. I’m actually surprised how many have. I used the ones at the library. I’m assuming this means the physical book kind, and not a digital one like Encarta or something.

Hahaha…true, and not too many big cats wear collars with bells when running around. Coming from a baked-goods-kitten, I totally trust you!

Not much to worry about in terms of getting pregnant either.

Also prevents you from eating birds. Or so the cats tell me.

Move on and not think about it at all.

Memory fades and changes, but even so, enjoying the feelings and reminiscing are more meaningful than any photo. I hate this meme though (I know you’re not OP - just venting) because I’m a woman who never takes photos and just enjoys the moment. There are lots of us. It really doesn’t have to be gendered.

Leeches are still used in some surgeries.

Phat ass.

They don’t know what Reddit is in the least. Using email can occasionally be a challenge. They’re hippy artist types. Mostly they only know Facebook so they can sell their art. It’s a different life.

Fair. I’ve been trying to explain Lemmy and the Fediverse to my non-tech friends and it has been…entertaining.

I’m not a millennial, but I do kinda sorta work in IT, so half guilty as charged. Back to practicing my consummate Vs now.

I wonder what my Trogdor the Burninator sticker is secretly telling people about me.

Go read the news yourself then. It’s all out there. People have lost access to health benefits, water hygiene standards are being relaxed, critical cybersecurity initiatives are being cut, national parks will be less accessible to all (some of Colorado’s have already announced they’ll be closed two days a week), the impacts are both immediate and longer term, and far reaching. If you want to hear about immediate direct impact, a critical domestic violence center in Colorado that has been providing cross-departmental case management and victim advocacy since 2016 will likely have to shut down because its federal funding was cut by DOGE and victims are currently being turned away. The immediate, very real, impacts are EASY to discover with a minimal amount of research effort. The larger ones are just starting to make themselves known.