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Cake day: November 5th, 2023

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  • When I was a kid, the shitty dentist we went to constantly shamed me about not doing a good job with my teeth and drilled and filled everything he could. We eventually went to a better dentist, but then I ultimately ended up with damage from orthodontics, followed by a couple decades of poverty and depression. I can’t even describe the kind of anxiety I have over the thought of dental work. Yeah, my mouth is crap now, but I floss multiple times a day and brush regularly. It’ll probably cost more than what I have in my retirement fund to fix my teeth.

    BTW - when my kids were little I had a conversation with their dentist about the shape of teeth. Sounds like I was genetically fucked from the start with deeply grooved teeth that are extremely difficult to avoid cavities. So fuck my childhood dentist for seeding that shame and anxiety.


  • I’m 52 and can’t be bothered with the waste of time. I will occasionally shave because it does feel nice for a bit afterwards. Honestly, same goes with my pits. In all fairness though, I’m fair skinned with lighter colored body hair that isn’t all that thick. EXCEPT for the motherfucking chin hairs. Those damn things I curse at each and every one that I rip from my face.

    That said, people should do whatever the fuck they feel comfortable with in regards to their own body hair.




  • “go to self checkout or wait forever.”

    On the unfortunate days I have to stop at the store when myself and everyone else are getting off of work, I’ve seen the lines at self checkout as long or longer than the registers.

    I’m use a self checkout if 1) there are empty checkouts and 2) I only have enough items that I can carry. Sure - then I’m getting in and out. But if I’m pushing a cart, I’m going to a cashier.


  • As a woman of an age dealing with unfortunate hormonal fluctuations, I’m holding myself to this. It’s almost frustrating in the way it’s paying off.

    I’ve been riding the cycle of shitty sleep leading to excess caffeine, leading to shittier sleep even taking melatonin, leading to even more poor diet choices. I suffered through a day where I denied myself afternoon caffeine (stopping at noon, where previously I thought 3pm was close enough) and had a sucky day. But I slept slightly better that night. Holding myself to this, each night’s sleep has been slightly better, and I feel like I’m making smarter decisions again.

    It’s still too early to say if it’ll be a long term solution, but this last week I’ve started taking small doses of l-theanine. It’s the stuff in tea that’s supposed to help you relax. I found 200mg chewable tablets that I break into 1/4-1/3 pieces. I take a little in the morning and some before bed, and am overall feeling more relaxed. I’ve slept beautifully the last few nights without melatonin, but with my track record I want to see that hold a good month before guiding the l-theanine all the credit.









  • Through my teenage years I got wrapped up in an evangelical environment, but as an adult found my way to a non- denominational church. It was eye opening. The more I talked to the pastor, learned and read, I realized that people get wrapped up in their denominations like sports teams. And since the different denominations come about because of different interpretations of Scripture and the “rules” some group puts into place for their team, no wonder it’s the perfect environment for creating a culture of control and abuse for those seeking power.

    This doesn’t make me not believe in God, this makes me not trust the motivations of people in power. On the day to day, I try to be the best I can to people around me, and share love, kindness, and respect. That’s my big take away from Jesus’ teachings at least.




  • Since birth our brains are wired to look for faces. It helps with survival when the helpless wiggly thing bonds with the giant who is full of hormones telling them to protect it.

    As we grow we learn to recognize other patterns, which help us find food, be safe, find a mate, etc. Our brains are constantly looking to match everything we see with something from a previous experience. Which is unfortunately one of the places PTSD can pop up. Say you had a traumatic experience - you may not remember seeing someone wearing a red hat just prior to something terrible happening, but your brain might. In the aftermath it’s possible that you find yourself uncomfortable around someone wearing a red hat but can’t figure out why. You may not remember, but your brain does and thinks it’s helping by alerting you too a problem.