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  • No one teaches you how to have a relationship. So people just kind of default into patterns that are often toxic.

    It’s why taking a step back and being deliberate about how to communicate is so important. There needs to be a shared understanding and deliberateness about how to intentionally communicate.

    And it needs to be something that applies equally to everyone involved. No copouts, no special circumstances that only go one way, there need to be firm, hard rules with specific consequences that apply evenly to all involved that are arrived at communally, and not unilaterally.


  • It takes two to tango.

    The defensive lashing out type stuff happens because he hasn’t established firm boundaries around it. And she’s probably lashing out about stuff because… Well. Doesn’t matter, really.

    There need to be firm boundaries about how to have a discussion that apply evenly to both of them. Both of them need to buy into these rules. When the lines are crossed the discussion ends.

    This isn’t about shutting down a discussion but having the awareness to recognize constructive versus destructive discussions.

    Setting reasonable, adult boundaries and rules, sticking to them, and establishing that certain behaviours are problematic are the only way this gets better.

    If she’s unable to recognize her own defensiven ss as a problem and work on it all of this falls apart but having the framework in place will allow transparency into the why of it.



  • The thing in this post about curiosity isn’t just a lemmy/online thing.

    The vast majority of people are mainly interested in themselves. Like - if you have trouble on dates, making friends, getting along at work, anything to do with people in general - approaching them with a sense of sincere curiosity will completely change things overnight.

    Get people to talk about themselves, be supportive in your discussions with them, and shut the fuck up wherever possible and suddenly you’re interesting, a good person, kind, whatever - traits you’ve done exactly fuck all to demonstrate, but that people will swear are true because you seem interested in them.

    It’s fucking bonkers but it’s true. Curiosity can change your world.




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    5 months ago

    The issue isn’t that the parties are the same. It is that neither should be in power. And you’re all too fucking brainwashed to realize the only way out of this mess without violent revolution is a third party gaining power. And even with, probably.


  • That’s what they said basically.

    Like. You can compile better or more diverse datasets to train a model on. But you can also have better code training on the same dataset.

    The model is what the code poops out after its eaten the dataset I haven’t read the paper so no idea if the better training had to do with some super unique spin on their dataset but I’m assuming its better code.



  • Increasingly I feel like our only hope for the future is somehow achieving ASI and that it somehow is benevolent in spite of our numerous failings as a species and KT basically starts manipulating us or directly controlling us away from self destruction.

    There are so many doomsday scenarios on the horizon that if it ends up being evil we may at least be able to take it down with us.


  • I have spent a very considerable amount of time tinkering with using ai models of all sorts.

    Personally, I don’t know shit. I learned about… Zero entropy loss functions (?) The other day. That was interesting. I don’t know a lick of calculus and was able to grok what was going on thanks to a very excellent YouTube video. Anyway, I guess my point is that suddenly everyone is an expert.

    I’m not. But I think it’ neat.

    Like. I’ve spent hundreds or possibly thousands of hours learning as much as I can about AI of all sorts (as a hobby) and I still don’t know shit. I trained a gan once. On reddit porn. Terrible results. Great learning.

    Its a cool state to be in cuz there’s so much out there to learn about.

    I’m not entirely sure what my point is here beyond the fact that most people I’ve seen grandstanding about this stuff online tend to get schooled by an actual expert.

    I love it when that happens.




  • I was recently banned from reddit.

    On all my accounts.

    Across four email addresses.

    Simultaneously.

    Many of which haven’t been used in months. Years in some cases.

    So - banned on one account linked to one address. Accounts linked to four other email addresses were banned. None of those accounts have been logged into from any device the account I got banned from was being used on.

    The emails are linked to my phone number though.

    So. Two steps ahead of you. But. They are either using some kind of NLP to identify the way I write. Or google is sharing that the accounts are linked to my phone number.

    Anyway. Reddit can fuck right off. And I’ll be buying a burner phone with cash to make some accounts soon.