Couldn’t have been better said. I work in an industry full of narcissists, the OP just needs to regularly start flexing the part of the mind that allows us all to sincerely conceptualize the situation of another party. It’s strangely fun once you get good at doing it.
There’s also the trolls who argue in bad faith and only go online to bully.
Lemmy was trolls free at first, but then the Reddit dingle berries and grammar nazi’s showed up… and all those turds deserve downvotes. I make it a personal mission to defend users here from bullying when I see it, life’s already hard enough.