There’s definitely an interdependancy there, but don’t discount the incredible complexity of some cool civilan tech: James Webb Space Telescope, Mars rovers, ISS, the old Space Shuttle. Even mundane things like ocean-based oil rigs are chock full of amazing engineering.
They are spotlights, usually used for peering into dimly lit alleys and things like that while driving slowly by.
They’re gunning for the user, whom they wish to exploit. The user clings to FLOSS alternatives in an attempt to avoid having their data harvested, analyzed, weaponized, and leveraged against the user for profit.
Caveman “restaurant”? This kind of a conversation usually takes place outside a restaurant after a business lunch.