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  • Being kind is its own reward. Life is generally better if you try to make life better for others. Not like life will be perfect, but better than it would be otherwise.

    Like, when I used to work shitty part-time jobs, if I went in with a good attitude and was as kind to those around me as I could be, I had a better day than if I was grumpy and did the bare minimum. Got paid the same shitty wage either way, but my life was better when I was kinder. Sure some people take advantage of that kindness, but most will reflect it back to you.

    There can be ways that hard work and kindness lead to material rewards. But in general it is worth being kind simply because you’ll enjoy life more.

    (Also, I wouldn’t have married my wife if I hadn’t been kind and befriended someone a lot of other people thought was frustrating or annoying. I had met my wife previously, but only knew her in passing. Years later, we re-met at that friend’s birthday party. Started dating a few months later, and now we’re married! That mutual friend can still sometimes be frustrating or annoying, but we always try to be kind to her because that’s what brought us together.)



  • TheRealKuni@lemmy.worldtoLemmy Shitpost@lemmy.worldNo one showed up to his party
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    I appreciate your concern but I’m not looking to hear some kind of abstinence lecture.

    Not that I have any horse in this race, but for the record there’s a profound difference between abstinence and moderation, and if you don’t think there are gradations between “alcoholic levels of ethanol consumption” and “no alcohol consumption,” then perhaps they have a point.

    Be good to yourself, my friend.



  • There was at least one care bear on Lemmy saying ‘think of his family’, etc.

    Nah, I will think about the families of the tens of thousands of private insurance victims instead.

    I don’t think empathy is a zero-sum game.

    Fuck the CEO and his company’s practices. Sic semper leeches-who-profit-from-making-healthcare-worse.

    But I still feel for his kids who lost their dad, and his parents who lost their son. Just like I feel bad for the families who lost people because they were denied healthcare.

    Callousness toward the pain of other people isn’t a trait I want to nurture in myself, personally.





  • the thing is, most people don’t. Movie buffs are a minority, the casual viewers flock to what they know, which is exactly why there are only sequels and reboots. It wouldn’t be like that if it wasn’t making them tons of money.

    False. Star Wars viewing drove off a cliff when their sequels sucked.

    There is a 1-2 sequel movies buffer until the drop off starts when the quality is consistently bad.

    That doesn’t make anything they said false. What you said just means that quality still matters, eventually.




  • TheRealKuni@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldCoke
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    Gotta move with the times, man. Emojis are a great way to add tone to text-based conversation for those who didn’t grow up in IRC chatrooms, learning to apply tone to the text itself.

    Excessive use of emojis can be annoying, but in concept I think they’re fine.






  • Eh. The thing Catholics use to say spilling seed is a sin is them completely misunderstanding what was happening.

    So this dude Onan’s brother died without giving his wife any sons (or maybe children in general, I don’t remember). So according to tradition at the time, Onan was supposed to provide her with a son. But once he gave her a son, his job would be complete and he wouldn’t get to bang her anymore. So he pulled out.

    The problem here wasn’t that he spilled his seed, it was that he spilled his seed in order to keep banging his brother’s widow.

    But the Roman Catholic Church at some point was like, “OMG masturbation must be bad too!” So they decided that masturbation should he called “Onanism.” Which is ridiculous, dude is famous for pulling out, not jackin’ it.

    🙄


  • Hi!

    A while back I myself made the sometimes painful journey from a conservative to the progressive I consider myself now. I know you didn’t ask, but here’s some stuff to keep in mind.

    The internet has no place for subtlety. People desperately want the dopamine rush that comes from righteous fury, defending one’s viewpoint and crushing those who disagree. It’s true of a lot of people, and I’ll be honest, I’m guilty of it on occasion. It just feels so damn good to be right.

    But in my experience, most people in life don’t really act that way. I mean, in high school I occasionally got shit on by people who were “lefties,” but I was usually asking for it. More generally, people were much more likely to ask me questions and discuss our differences. They may have been judging me, but I never got that vibe. It’s just easier to see the person you’re talking to as a fellow human in person. And those people were integral in helping me realize that a lot of the stuff I was seeing online about feminazis and whatnot was simply more rage product, designed to get that part of the brain pumping and let me feel good and superior to someone else.

    Removed from the left vs right rage online, I found that it became increasingly difficult to call myself “conservative.” Not because I was worried about how people would think of me, but rather because the more people I met and the more I learned about the world, the harder it was to reconcile what I knew with the views I had held. And when I would try to provide context or data to my fellow conservatives, they refused to listen. Anything that didn’t reinforce the views they held, they didn’t want to hear.

    So much of what I thought I knew about “lefties” was from online takes and screenshots that others shared, but none of that matched my experience with real people in real life. And I’ve been so grateful I had the chance to spend time with people with significantly different lived experiences from my own who didn’t shun me for my views but were friendly and helped me become a more empathetic person.

    Of course, this goes both ways. The average conservative doesn’t want to kill gay people or black people. They aren’t represented by the extremes either. Generally speaking, people just want to live their lives. I truly think one of the biggest differences between progressive and conservative mindsets is about how many people whose lives are different from your own you’ve gotten to know. It helps us be less afraid of one another. It’s part of why densely populated areas tend to be more progressive, I think.

    Anyway, I wish you luck in your journey. Hope you didn’t mind my musing here!