Debian with kde, because it looked a bit like Windows.

Then slackware because it was supposedly a “simple” Linux distro. Apparently simple doesn’t mean simple to use for a newbie…

For sure, I don’t think I strictly belong to either of the stereotypes

People here are apparently either foss neckbeards or transfems/femboys, and they are all valid.

Trans dev here, I hear that hacker spaces aren’t bad places to look. I wouldn’t know though, too shy to actually show up -.-

I’m a bit annoyed with element X tbh, my home server only has sso logins, but they don’t support that and the error message doesn’t explain this at all, which means it’s up to me to figure out if I’m doing it wrong, my home server is doing something wrong, or the app is just bad at communicating errors.

What are the preferred alternatives?

Mine is probably matrix, mostly because I can use the same account everywhere, but it also feels like there’s a lot of gotchas and all the phone apps are kinda meh each in their own unique way.