If you are constantly having your comments removed and other comments that you think are comparably bad are not being removed, leave that instance. If you are seeing it everywhere, then leave Lemmy.
You know what they say about someone who smells shit everywhere they go. If you have to ban evade on reddit and Lemmy, you just might be the problem. I opened your profile. The first and last thing I read was a suggestion that someone you were speaking to should be killed. Introspect.
I’m not new on the internet, or on forum style websites. You need to stop deflecting and examine your own thoughts and feelings or you are just going to be angry at everyone forever.