Crockpot beans with a side of toe jam.

41 here, I was there too. It’s not that bad, just take care of yourself now. At your age I ate fast food, never exercised, and basically lived on caffeine, nicotine, and stress endorphins from working all the time. Now at my last check up, I’m overweight, my knees are shot, my back hurts all the time, and I have chronic acid reflux.

You are young enough that you can get a head start on aging, what you should do daily is exercise, eat healthy, and take some personal time/mental health time for yourself everyday to reduce stress. You don’t want to end up like me and be facing a huge uphill battle to get healthy.

Praise saint ibuprofen.

Mostly it’s everyday stuff, stuff I used to stress about now I’m like, eh it’ll get done. Social acceptance is another one, I used to worry about people liking me and couldn’t get past it if someone I thought I was on good terms with didn’t like me. Now I worry about that much less, don’t get me wrong I still want people to like me, but if they don’t I can just accept it and move on.

As an example, there was a guy in my office who hated me, I was never anything but nice to him, but he just hated me. The problem was we regularly had to work together on things. In the past I would have been going out of my way to try and get him to like me and find out what it was that he had against me. Now, ok you don’t like me, let’s just keep the interactions professional and to the point, and I’ll just leave you alone the rest of the time.

Basically you just learn to accept yourself and be happy with the good people and events in your life, and learn to just accept and move on from the others.

Seriously, I’m 41 and over the last year I’ve slowed slipped into fuck it mode. Don’t get me wrong, I still have plenty of things I care about, but so many little things I’ve just stopped caring about and my life is so much more relaxed because of it. It’s amazing what hitting 40 can do to your mindset.

Please see my edit on the original post.

Thank you for letting me know about that, please see my edit to the original post.

Bunch of people in Hollywood getting really nervous right now.

La-A, it’s pronounced La-Dash-A

My mom taught nursing and La-A was one of her students, she said her mother had her at 15 after dropping out of highschool her freshman year and wanted a unique name for her.

Edit Ok wow, I did not know that there was a racist aspect about this name. Sorry I didn’t go into more detail originally. She was real, and from what little interaction I had with her she was a very nice and down to earth woman, who put herself through nursing school. I met her at the pinning ceremony because I always ran the audio for it to help my mom out. I didn’t get to spend any meaningful time talking to her, but I heard her name called out when it was her turn on stage to get her pin and saw her come up and receive her nursing pin.

Again I had no idea about the racist aspect of this name, if I had I would have either given more detail upfront or just not posted. I’ve met a handful of people with interesting sounding and spelled names and didn’t think anything about it when originally posting. I apologize if anyone felt I was being offensive.

I have 3, 2 ovals and 1 circle.

LoL, two words I would not use to describe myself, hot and dad. Though I admit at this point in my life it is difficult to find someone who doesn’t have children. Yeah I know I’m gameable, that’s probably something that subconsciously is holding me back. I know that when I fall for someone, I fall hard. It’s not “thinking with the wrong head” it’s thinking “don’t screw this up because you’ll be alone forever”. Maybe now that I’m comfortable being alone I can be a bit more relaxed in a relationship.

Well for me it’s the twist-tie until I get down to the last few slices then I just spin the bag and fold it back over itself.

Why the twist-tie wasn’t listed is beyond me since I’ve never seen a store that didn’t have them as the majority of closure mechanisms.

Also, bottle hack? I honestly have no idea what that’s about.

Coming January 2026, MAX HBO, it’s MAXimum HBO.

I work in international freight and this is still a thing. Most customs brokers are email now, but some still require documents be faxed. So our system takes the PDF that it auto generates for every shipment and faxes it to the number on file. From time to time those same brokers will email us a copy of the PDF we faxed them to have something corrected. So they are getting the fax in their email rather than having us just email the thing directly. It makes zero sense, like I understand keeping the fax capability for legacy customers and as a backup, but your primary should be email if it’s all going there anyway.

Yeah, I googled “I’ve been waiting for this moment, Phil Collins” and multiple results showed up with the same answer. Should have opened up the lyrics and actually read them…

There were 5 that were toxic, the first one was a casual friend I ended up getting close with and started dating before we ever had sex. The next two were casual hookup partners that evolved into relationships, the fourth was actually a friend I had had since highschool and only started dating 15 years after graduation, and the fifth and final one was again a casual hookup that turned serious.

I admit as I wrote that out I saw the issue. In defense of the fourth one, she had some issues with her childhood, and the father of her children was … let’s just say not helping. We’ve reconnected after some time and are still friends, but agreed dating was a bad idea.

DAMN YOU GOOGLE! YOU HAVE FAILED ME AGAIN!!!

Seriously I knew it didn’t sound right but multiple Google results showed what I wrote so I figured I was remembering it incorrectly. Thanks for the correction.

Just to finish out the post title.

For all my life, hold on.

There, that was going to bug me.

Honestly I get it, I’ve been single for 11 years now. I went through a series of toxic relationships and the last one broke me. After her I decided to take a break from dating a try to figure out why I kept attracting only toxic women.

It’s been 11 years and I still haven’t figured it out, and now I’m in my 40’s and don’t really want to date again. What I’m trying to say is, take some time, heal, get your head straight, but get back out there sooner than later. It’s easy to fall into the “I’m happier single” mindset, but difficult to get out of.

Had to Google that one, but damn that looks comfy. Since I mostly work from home now, I might have to try that out. Thanks for the suggestion.