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  • I know the developer of this website. It’s hard paywall. You won’t be able to bypass it by modifying the elements in any sense.

    As you mentioned in some other comments, only the currently archived ones will be available. If you are looking for just this specific article, let me know, I will archive and share the link here. If you are looking for a method to bypass it entirely, I don’t think it’s possible.

    Also I assume you are not in a position to afford the subscription. It’s fairly decent considering the quality of articles. So whenever you can afford it, subscribe and support them. Nowadays good long form articles are non existent in Indian media.


  • Hey thanks for the detailed explanations.

    Regarding SSO my concern is not the ChartDB team having my email, that I was planning to give anyway, but SSO provider knowing I’m using this tool. It’s a personal paranoia than anything else. I know it’s much safer and easier to have 3rd party SSO than managing your own authentication service. Done that, hated it. So not really that annoyed about it.

    The Mac only part really annoyed me to the core. Then I received an email telling about Buckle, which amplified it. I think the problem is you advertise it as ‘ChartDB 2.0’ and then suddenly it becomes ‘Buckle’. I can understand the thought process behind such presentations, but really don’t like it. TBH I would not be this mad if a similar tactic was used by a large corporation. But being an open source tool I have some ethical issues with these practices.

    Again, I know these are just some inconveniences, and not a scandal. So not really complaining, but just sharing how I felt. Apologies if that has been rude.


  • I have some critical comments not about the tool, but about another related stuff. Please look at the next section for doubts and suggestions.

    The tool need to be more clear and less annoying about ChartDB v2.0.

    So this is shown as some big rework, so I signed up. Only then it said only MacOS would support it initially. This was a huge disappointment and I felt kind of deceived into giving my email id I don’t remember seeing it’s only mac at the beginning on the sign up page. May be I missed.

    Another thing is it looks like a different product altogether with the name ‘Buckle’. Again I didn’t see it in the sign up section. Why a new product name? Are you switching to freemium model?

    Last but most importantly, why does a third party sign up for it? If you just want to inform the user when things are ready, just take the email and use it. No need to have access to my Google or GitHub account.


    Apart from this terrible experience, I love the tool and how it visualises it.

    I have a doubt. When I visualised my postgres db it also showed the views I had, apart from the tables. But I could not find an option to add a new view from the interface, so that I can use it as a more capable design tool. Is it a feature in the pipeline?

    Also I could not find an option to set the length of Type: varchar. I remember seeing this feature in other design tools.










  • I would say exactly that is what you have to describe. As I said certain things cannot be changed with therapy. It can only help you to get in terms with it.

    Regarding the last point you mentioned. You are not giving up on her. Exerting constant pressure can’t change certain realities. It is like thinking you can drain an ocean with a bucket and a lot of time.

    You have to accept that there is nothing ‘wrong’ with your partner. If she is asexual there is nothing to ‘cure’. You must build your life around this fact to be happy.

    This does not mean that your needs should be discarded. In the same way you accept and respect the fact that she is asexual, she also has to take a mature stand and work on finding common grounds or compromises. That is how relationships work, isn’t it?

    You start therapy. Remember that you will need to find a suitable therapist. So don’t hesitate to change therapists until you find one you are comfortable with. Maybe the therapist can help you on how this topic needs to be discussed with your partner. That may slowly open up new ways to improve the conditions.


  • No no… Don’t blame yourself. You did nothing wrong here. Very scientifically speaking we still have no clear answer on how the sexuality of a person is determined. So far there is a consensus that there is a biological factor also in play.

    It is not your failure as a partner. These are things beyond your control. She also can’t do much on this. Therapy won’t change the underlying reality. It will just help you to cope up with the hard realities that you are facing.

    I highly recommend you take individual therapy if you haven’t done so far. You may have to untangle decades of experiences to get in terms with it. It’s never late, and the right therapist will definitely improve how you handle this.


  • Oh so sorry. I didn’t realise you were talking about the situation you are in. I thought the first comment was just a thought experiment. I didn’t pay enough attention. My bad.

    In your case I guess she can be in the asexual part of the spectrum. One of my friends is facing a similar situation. The partner has no sex drive at all. But the partner is a great person in every other area. That relationship sustained because my friend also has a lower sex drive, but more than what the partner has.

    Since this has been so long, I assume you have already tried the couple therapy and individual therapy. If not that is one thing you can try out.

    But keep in mind that if your partner is really asexual, there isn’t much that you can do. It’s not their fault in any way. So either you have to accept the situation and build a life around this fact, or you have to move on. Since you have been in the relationship for a long time, I guess everything else is going well. Means you have already chosen the first option.