Hi all!

We’re very excited to move to Denmark soon as lifelong Americans. I have a good job lined up, and we’re set on a place to live for a while.

Any advice from people who have done it, looked it up, had friends who have done it, etc? Just in general :)

  • GiddyGap@lemm.ee
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    9 months ago

    Do everything you can to learn the language quickly. Take any language class offer you get. It will make life much easier in a new country, especially if you’re looking to make friends. Immerse yourself in the culture immediately.

    Also, remember that Europeans, especially Scandinavians, are not as openly friendly as Americans. They can seem cold and distant at first. It’s not because they are not friendly, it’s just a cultural feature. Once you get to know them, most open up and they are awesome.

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    9 months ago

    Do your best to immerse yourself . When you view the USA from the outside or return to visit, you will ask yourself, “WTF is going on here?”

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    In the middle now.

    Wife is already Swedish so I’m doing it on easy mode, plus job is remote.

    Politeness, wow, that’s tough to get used to. Trying to fix my silicon valley manners and I’m still coming off as the biggest asshole.

    Government is more involved in your life, but it’s not too bad, just something you get used to, ups and downs, they mostly try to help.

    Amazon is shit, thats a thing for me, but you manage.

    They have a food culture.

    No, you may have misunderstood me, I did not say they have food in their culture, I mean a significant part of their societal culture revolves around food.

    Did not understand this, used to Door dashing and eating to get by, they don’t do that, food matters to them, spending half a day cooking is just a thing you do, it’s not work to them anymore than watching YouTube is.

    Otherwise you’ll get by, just try to tone down your socialization reflexes, they’re more reserved and our outgoing nature can scare them shitless if they’re not ready for it.

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    9 months ago

    Don’t walk in the bike path.

    4th. of July is celebrated in Rebild, which could be a nice excuse to drive through the country and meet other Americans in Denmark.

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    9 months ago

    All round great advice. For a bit more silly one: record yourself opening the window for the first time in Denmark.

    (iykyk)

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    Dane here, living in the UK but have lived in the US and spent a lot of time with Americans.

    First of all make sure your are looking at Forskerordningen, which can radically lower your tax burden as a foreign worker coming to Denmark.

    Second, binge watch YouTube - there’s a lot of content of Americans moving to Denmark and most of them are full of advice. Travelin’ Young is the most nuanced.

    It’s very easy to navigate stores and big cities with English. Do not let that fool you. Danes REALLY appreciate arrivals learning the language and there are many places where not knowing the language will really impact you. Also, language is culture and it’s too easy in Denmark to fool yourself into thinking it’s not a problem for you. You won’t really live there and make those connections without speaking the language. Learn the language; I cannot say this clearly enough. It’ll make an ENORMOUS difference to you.

    Danes are very direct compared to Americans. Especially in the work place. They find Americans phoney and saccharine and they do not like corporate lingo. Speak plainly, be clear, feel a little “rude” (as an American) and you’ll quickly zero in on the right level of directness. It will be extremely difficult for you, as an American, to not read Danes as bored or rude. They are just plain.

    Be advised that “provinsen” (the outskirts) is quiet, dull, won’t speak English and very bare. If you’re not living in a big city, be prepared for an uphill climb. On the upside, though, if you built relationships out there, they’ll last a lifetime.

    If you want to be fully “adopted”, be advised that alcohol is part of the culture. Most events include alcohol. Sobriety isn’t normal.

    If you have kids, steel yourself for the liberty danes afford their children - and expect others to give them too. Kids will roam and being exposed to risk is seen as healthy part of growing up, including in state schools.

    Janteloven is real. If you’re ambitious, be strategic about how you expose that to others.

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      9 months ago

      That is indeed quite accurate and comprehensive.

      And as a Dane due to move back after 8 years abroad it feels strangely relevant and slightly alienating 🙃

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    I don’t know if Denmark does it, but Norwegians love to use week numbers in corporate/education environments for scheduling instead of using dates like normal people, so you might end up in a situation where you have to check the calender to find out what date Monday week 42 might be.

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    • Language is by far the most important door opener, so put in one hour of learning every day for at least a year.
    • Mingle to get out of your comfort zone: Go to after-work parties and flea markets, take public transit. Use hobbyist/ meet-up apps. Read/ watch the local news.
    • Don’t expect to be invited, especially not to people’s homes. People might also be uncomfortable being invited to your home. Meeting in a public place is almost always the better option, unless you’ve gotten to know someone really well.
    • Irony/ sarcasm don’t translate very well between cultures.
    • Europe has some lousy weather, so get watertight coats and waterproof your shoes and backpacks.
    • Take it slow.
    • Also: Enjoy it! Europe is a fantastic little place at the crossroads between Asia and Africa and I would never want to leave.
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      UK inhabitant here. Is being invited to someone’s house a casual thing in the US? I don’t think I’ve ever been invited by someone who isn’t a close friend.

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    Think of other topics and questions than work, Americans care too much about work outside of work.

    Switch your phone apps to celsius and start your brain switching ASAP.

    Without knowing what country or region you’re going to would help

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        American here, got stationed in Italy for a few years. Learning Celsius was easy with this in mind:

        0 freezing
        10 cool
        20 nice
        30 hot
        40 sweltering

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          Cool!!

          Or a “good enough” rough estimate is: double (the Celsius number) + 30

          (0 * 2) + 30 = 30F freezing

          (10 * 2) + 30 = 50F cool

          (20 * 2) + 30 = 70F nice

          (30 * 2) + 30 = 90F hot

          (40 * 2) + 30 = 110F sweltering

          In reverse: subtract 30 (from the Fahrenheit number), and divide by 2

          (30F - 30) / 2 = 0 C freezing

          (40F - 30) / 2 = 5 C freezing

          (50F - 30) / 2 = 10 C cool

          (60F - 30) / 2 = 15 C cool

          (70F - 30) / 2 = 20 C nice

          (80F - 30) / 2 = 25 C nice

          (90F - 30) / 2 = 30 C hot

          (100F - 30) / 2 = 35 C hot

          (110F - 30) / 2 = 40 C sweltering

          (120F - 30) / 2 = 45 C start praying

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          It’s easier to just remember a few key values and estimate based on those. I know the conversions for every ten degrees Celsius from -10 to 30

    • SurpriZe@lemm.ee
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      Never met an American who wants to “talk about work” out here. They all prefer to keep their free time work-discussion free.

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    Time to learn a new language, unless you’re moving to Ireland or Malta I guess. Tons of people come to Germany and are shocked when not everyone speaks English.

    Anyway, I think you’ll get better answers if you specify a country. The EU is quite diverse, so I don’t think there’s a ton of advice that’ll be true everywhere in the EU.

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      Tons of people come to Germany and are shocked when not everyone speaks English.

      It’s funny, I more often seem to read so many stories of people saying “Finally, I can practice my German with someone!”

      And the German is like “I speak English it’s okay.” Lol

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        I think it’s exactly those stories that give people a false impression when they come here. It’s not that they are false, most of the time you’ll certainly find people who can speak decent English. A tourist probably won’t need any German, but when it comes to living here long-term, dealing with bureaucracy, finding a job or making friends, knowing German is pretty essential.

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          Most people saying that also are either tourists, or live near a military base, where a lot of the German population know how to speak English. Knowing danke, bitte, and entshuldigung does quite a lot. Wer ist döner is the most essential phrase in German though. Unsure about danish. Probably similar sounding but slightly more English since the closest language to Denmark for quite some time was Anglish.