Someone once paid me to poke them with a stick every time I caught them not doing their assignments. Offloading executive functioning onto someone else can work

Treats. Find something u like. Could be candy, could be a game, whatever. Use it to reward yourself when you do the thing you need to do. Even better if u can do it small. Like if doing homework for each question you finish you get a pistachio for example.

Motivation isn’t a real thing. Stop leaning on it and waiting for it to show up out of the blue and support you.

Discipline is what you need. Sucks to hear, sorry for that.

Trust me on this: you told yourself it’s easy. So do it. It’s easy. If you don’t, these inactions will low key create self hatred. You’ll fall behind before you realize it, be inundated with work, and your subconscious will think back to this moment. All you’ll hear is “Fuck this I hate this this sucks” maybe even “I hate myself”.

Don’t let it get there.

It’s easy? Prove it.

If you get shit done while being true to yourself, self-hate is genuinely difficult.

Sometimes you have to do the wrong thing and learn the hard way. Anyone can tell you to do your assignments, but until you fail the course and have to do it again the consequences might not seem real. Then you will really be kicking yourself for wasting even more time.

Pomodoro technique. Basically set a timer to do work for 20 mins (or even 10 minutes), then take a break. Then do it again. Sometimes this can get you over the initial hurdle of getting started. Once you get into the task you may not want to take a break anymore.

A similar trick is if you think of something else to do that’s timewasting, like posting on lemmy (lol), then its ok to do it - but only after working for 10 minutes. You can still do those things but prioritize getting something done first.

Make a list of all the tasks you need to do, pick the ‘hardest’ one first (psychologically hardest for you), and force yourself to just make a start, even if you tell yourself you’ll just do 5 mins, it’s usually easier to keep going longer once you make that start. Pomodoro technique, 25 mins focus, 5 min break to move about, works well for me.

I would also say be targeted. It’s only first year at uni, depending on where you are studying it might not be that challenging or even important to you final degree. Make sure you know how you’re being assessed, what the learning outcomes are, and if there’s stuff that’s new to you, or you’re rusty on, spend time learning that. But for things you already know from school, it’s fine to just dip in and out, do a bit to reassure yourself you know it well enough, then go socialise, get some exercise, do a hobby, join a student society. All those things are good for you, some can even look good on a CV, and it’s likely you’ll have to de-prioritise them a bit in later years of your degree, so enjoy the chance while it’s there!

Anyone can theoretically sit down and study for the equivalent of a university degree. Most people don’t have the motivation or discipline for that.

Half the point of the degree is that it pushes you to get it done. (The other half is verification that you did it.)

If you still can’t do it, then it isn’t so easy after all, is it? The main challenge isn’t how big your brain is. It’s actually putting in the work.

If you can’t find enough self-discipline to get through it, you’re going to regret it later.

i failed out of uni so take my advice with a huge grain of salt. but its ok to fail or rescedule. as long as you persist ofc. I failed some class and the shame made me fail more. reality is pretty much everyone has parts of their studys that are boring or incredible hard. and pretty mich everyone fails some stuff. Just make a plan, figure out what made you fail last time (if it happends) and try to prevent that next time.

tl;dr: dont be like me. be open and honest to your friends, professors and family. and you will make it :)

This might not work long term but for my ADHD I pit a timer for my task.

Depending on the task, I will come up with a time just long enough to complete it. I’ll start the timer and be so busy rushing I don’t even think about how much I hate it. Just blaze through it as fast as possible.

Doing things you don’t want to do is part of being an adult. It may sound silly but my method is to write a list of what needs to be done. I feel a little pleasure every time I cross something off

Ask about ‘Independent Study’ from your faculty adviser. If you don’t have one, go to your Department head. If you don’t have that, ask the Registrar.

Independent Study means you get to propose your own coursework and, if approved, get to do it and get credit for it. You still have to deal with faculty supervision but the subject is specific to you. Think about what you would love to learn and propose a way to get there.

This is not great advice, but I just go the Shia Lebouf method. I just tell myself to “Just do it!”. If I need to do something and there’s no way around not doing it, then it’s just a matter of time when that deadline happens and I’ll be more stressed with cramming. So I might as well do it and get it over with.

Anything worth doing is worth half assing. If you don’t feel like doing the assignment, sit down and start doing the work, but badly. Don’t check your work or self edit, for reading just skim it. No matter how badly you do it, it’s still going to be better than none of it being done.

Often just starting is enough to get you engaged and do better work. And if it’s not, well, half assed is better than nothing.

For my Wife the answer was medication because she has ADHD.

I hesitate to share my own strategy it was very effective for me, but I don’t know if it’s for everyone. What I found worked well for me was to integrate video games into my study routine. I would play CSGO, when you die in CSGO you are dead until the end of the round, and queue times are ~5-10min. Anytime I wasn’t directly paying in the game I would study, and I would play very aggressively so I would be more likely to die early. After a game I would take a 20min break then reenter the queue and study until the game started. It’s not the most time efficient, but it didn’t feel like work for me like that so I could do it all night. great for easy but long tasks.

Sometimes I would also play single player games on a slow harddrive and play during the loading but that is probably not as effective as it once was.

I had this issue all through school. I would always stay up the night before and do whatever it was while having 17 mental breakdowns. I made it through just fine using this method, but I guess I wouldn’t recommend it lol. That’s all I got, sorry!