• Mickey7@lemmy.worldOP
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    18 hours ago

    Honestly curious about this. I don’t think that people turn into homosexuals. They either are or aren’t at birth. But in the case of lesbians, which you raised, I wonder how many have at least once experimented with at least one hetero interaction which would involve penis holding

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      2 hours ago

      So assuming good faith curiosity here, heteronormativity and compulsive heterosexuality are a thing. There’s huge social pressure to conform - as a child growing up I got constant messaging that one day I’d grow up, get a boyfriend, get married, have babies, etc. and so, starting to feel the pressure of being a late bloomer and not understanding that my awkwardness around other girls was because I was attracted to them (because that’s not like a thing), I found myself a boyfriend at 18 and we dated a few years because I really loved him and the sex was mostly enjoyable. But only a few months in I realized I was attracted to women, and it took a few years to fully accept it. Dating women is much harder, factually it’s a numbers game there’s just a lot less of us. But I dated a few over the years, and it took me seven years before I dated another man for a couple months, who I also love and I’m still good friends with today but we haven’t hooked up in almost a decade. And then there were a bunch of women since, some for a short time some for a long. I consider myself a lesbian through and through, although the label police will be like well acktually which is toxic as fuck. Obviously words have meaning but people have the right to express themselves as they see fit. Pedantic people would say I’m bisexual because I dared to sleep with two men in the last 18 years. I’d say I’m so rarely attracted to men that I actually stop and savor the moment when I do find one attractive, like seeing a rare bird or something lol.

      So to answer the initial part about turning homosexual , I think sexuality is somewhat fluid and few people are 100% in either direction. Think of the most attractive male actor to you (assuming you are male). Would you be embarrassed if you woke up in bed (consensually of course) with them? Or would you be like damn alright well that was enjoyable but probably won’t happen again?

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      11 hours ago

      Speaking of which, an obsession with dicks or second hand dicks totally sets off my gaydar. Not that there’s anything wrong with being gay, but this post feels a bit like overcompensating, so maybe it’s something to think about.

      Like does it really bug you that a hand probably touched a dick or does it bug you that the thought causes a more complex reaction than that?

      Either that or you don’t really care about it that much but are saying it to trigger others who might care, which I can respect.

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        2 hours ago

        Recently someone I used to be closer friends with but we rarely hang out anymore because he drinks too much, he came over a mutual friends house while I was there and would not shut the fuck up about how he wasn’t gay. But like… nobody said he was. It wasn’t even a topic of conversation. He was just drunk as fuck. It got to the point where I was like dude… you’re projecting is there something you wanna tell me? And then he shut up.

        So it’s a small town… I ask one of my gay guy friends who knows him (all the locals know everyone it’s a smallllllll town) if he has any thoughts and it turns out drunk friend has unfortunately been a sex pest towards him.

        Drunk is bisexual and not handling it well apparently.

      • Mickey7@lemmy.worldOP
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        11 hours ago

        Everyone needs to get some humor in their lives. It does wonders. It’s a completely JOKE post. Who would give any consideration to how many cocks a person handled before shaking hands with them. EVERYONE wipes their butt. Do rational people actually think about that before shaking hands? And what would be more accepable shaking a butt wiping hand or a cock handling hand?

        I consider “shitpost” a great group for posting humourous and strange things. Geez, it’s not serious stuff. There are plently of other groups for serious discussion and debate.