anecdotally, as a guy in my thirties, even my acquaintances (wouldn’t actually consider them friends tbh, since we only hang out at rec game times) are quite supportive. sure there’s the surface level of shit talk, but if you start to get serious, they do too. a few of them surprised me with this.

in my experience nowadays, it’s equally just shitty people of any gender that say suck it up, no real bias one way or another

but that’s of course just my own circles. I tend to just drop out of (or not join in the first place) any circle that has shitty people