• NJSpradlin@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    Are you surprised when a good meaning person asks when a slightly chubby woman is due, when she isn’t actually pregnant?

    Or are we both on the same page and people shouldn’t be asking personal questions in any capacity unless they’re their medical practitioners or in close relationships? AND even so, a close relationship shouldn’t fucking JUDGE you with questions like “so, when are you two having children?”. Fuck. That. Shit. It’s none of your GD business if we are or want to have children.

    Edit: Obviously, in this economic situation, ain’t nobody can afford to have children. Let alone pay for their student loans or purchase a house.

    • Sabre363@sh.itjust.works
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      9 months ago

      Not surprised, but I’m also not convinced it’s well-meaning so much as ignorance to the effect of their own actions. Otherwise, I think were mostly on the same page. It generally should be considered uncool to ask someone a personal questions without a valid reason to do so, regardless of age, genital status, or arbitrarily assigned category loosely based upon skin or the overall attitude of one religious group towards another.

    • RecluseRamble@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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      9 months ago

      Are you surprised when a good meaning person asks when a slightly chubby woman is due, when she isn’t actually pregnant?

      Actually, yes, because that’s been widely known as a risky question to ask for so long it would surprise me. Then I would question them actually being a well-meaning person.

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        9 months ago

        For fun.

        My sister was standing outside a gas station with a close friend of hers. Her friend was enjoying a cigarette when an old man walked up to her and sos, “You know, you aught to give that baby a chance!”

        She was not pregnant. That was the moment that turned her around and made her go on a diet though, poor thing.

        My sister said she cried for days.