This isn’t “I want to believe”, this is “it would be irresponsible to not consider”.

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Cake day: 2023年9月3日
  • AnIndefiniteArticle@sh.itjust.workstoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Assertive
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    3 个月前

    Consider: rural Florida.

    Rural Florida is way less transphobic than a place like Cornell.

    I grew up intersex in the former. I arrived at the latter with a beard and transitioned to avoid the wall discrimination that appeared when my boss raped me.

    I’d rather be intersex in Florida than anything but a cis white woman at Cornell.

    At least the rest of NY isn’t nearly as bad as that shithole. Unfortunately Florida seems to have taken a turn as well while I’ve been up here, and I don’t want to end up underwater.

  • AnIndefiniteArticle@sh.itjust.workstoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Assertive
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    3 个月前

    No, I’m a trans woman who was denied a voice until I started presenting as a woman.

    I was raped by my boss and no one cared. They called me aggressive and refused to let me even talk until I transitioned.

    Now that I’m a woman, people will actually listen to me talk about it, which is a marked improvement, even though it’s still the case that no one cares enough to do anything or try to help.

    By transitioning I suddenly was able to get people to listen to me, because they will only listen to a woman when the topic is SA/SV.

  • AnIndefiniteArticle@sh.itjust.workstoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Assertive
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    3 个月前

    I recommend trying to transition genders, even if it’s just while traveling or on vacation somewhere.

    People are WAY more likely to listen to a woman than a man saying the same thing. It’s one of the things I’ve been most grateful for since my social transition. People actually listen to me now (caveat: if they see me as a woman and aren’t transphobic).

    I agree about conservative comedians.

    Who said anything about victims? This is about who is seen as aggressive. That’s men and black people. Men are universally seen as the “aggressive” gender in Western society.

    Why do you think white women have the stereotype as damsels in distress? They are seen as nonaggressive and helpless.

  • AnIndefiniteArticle@sh.itjust.workstoComic Strips@lemmy.world•Assertive
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    3 个月前

    It’s about whether or not your perceived identity is socially perceived as allowed to have a voice.

    A person seen as a woman trying to speak up when ignored is being assertive and showing girl power.

    A person seen as a man trying to speak up when ignored is being aggressive and trying to command or control the situation with his testosterone.

    Black people get grouped in with men and classified as aggressive, regardless of gender, because racists whites think that blacks who talk are scary.

  • AnIndefiniteArticle@sh.itjust.workstoBicycles@lemmy.ca•Surprise Blizzard
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    3 个月前

    I learned the hard way this winter to store my bike indoors instead of in my barn so that the ice can melt between uses. I don’t think I’ll go through parts as quickly next year now that I’ve got a better game plan.

    Last winter was so much easier because we didn’t have stretches of months at a time below freezing, and weeks at a time below saline freezing.