It’s hard to decide: Certain physical features often associated with beauty are too prominent on me. I have a habit of under-describing my best qualities when asked. And I’m too dang humble for my own good.
Humility is about being right sized. A lot of folks take this idea of humility as needing to lessen oneself for the sake of being “humble” when really we should be representing ourselves clearly and as objectively as possible.
Yeh but then, if a person is genuinely obviously extremely attractive, or clearly has traits like a capacity to lead or influence people, or is objectively wealthy, or is clearly very smart, those are all things that come off as really conceited to the rest of us unless their acknowledgement is very careful. If such a person is too quick or too ready to acknowledge these things about themselves, despite their accuracy, we’re pretty likely to think they’re a dick. It seems like for people who are in some ways exceptional, the appropriate level of humility, wherever it is on the scale, does need to involve at least a little bit of pantomime and false modesty. The right size in such cases will need to be at least a little smaller than they really are, not too much smaller, or it’s interpreted as disingenuous, but not exactly true to scale either.
Yeah I mean, I didn’t say to gloat / flaunt. You can do what I suggested without making others feel small. False modesty is exactly what we are avoiding…genuine modesty is absolutely fine to run alongside my comment about being right sized and is the perfect antitode to the concern you started your post with.
And tbh the right sized thing has less to do with looks / status / wealth and more to do with how we see ourselves when doing a self assessment of character traits.
That’s a wise perspective.
And it feels especially generous as a response to my nonsense. Thanks.
You’re fine, glad you got something out of it. It was told to me by someone who helped me through a pivotal time; happy to pass it on.
My social security number. How embarrassing is yours?
(Please don’t post your actual number, even for the lolz)
You can post your number, Lemmy censors it
See: ***-**-****
Oh awesome hunter2 is my SSN you bunch of hunter2-ing hunter2s - that’s awesome. Technology is the best!
How do you do, fellow memers?
is this real or just a joke and you censored it manually
Do you seriously not know? It’s gotta be among the oldest internet memes…
Sometimes I still can’t accept losing a game. I’m 23.
You better come to terms with that. I used to play twitch shooters all the time… I now have an essential tremor and in your thirties your reflexes really start to go.
Some of you have a very low threshold for embarrassment.
Maybe that’s what they are truly embarrassed about.
I spent over $2k on a bike I never wish to ride.
I’ll just suggest to you, get an ebike, then you can hide how unfit you are 😏. Takes all the stress out of hills and some of the stress out of having impatient cars behind you, and keeps the enjoyable parts.
Probably my wardrobe. I keeping thinking in gonna change and I buy new clothes and I think I look very sharp then I wear that exact outfit a year later and it somehow looks junky and weird. I just wear office casual for everything now since it’s easy, doesn’t change and I have a lot of it.
Considering that you’re making thoughtful attempt, odds are that the rest of us see you as very stylish and you’re just your own worst critic.
Yes it’s because I think of myself as a good-looking outgoing guy and then I look in the mirror and I see an it worker 😅
As far as insecurities go it’s not a big deal to me.
I post on Lemmy.
And I comment and upvote on Lemmy! Nothing to be ashamed of.
I was desperate enough to have sex with your mother.
Either that I only eat frozen meals and don’t cook. Or that I have never had any friends. Or that I’m a cis female but have a ton of excess hair in the wrong spots (esp on my chin and neck) I try to keep on top of. Or that I’ve never been in a relationship and I’m 30. So many things to choose from!
My life is not so bad, though! The internet exists both for human connection and for entertainment. And I have a good job so I make enough to buy random crap.
I’ll be your friend
You’re like a female version of me. Except I’m only 27 and I have a lack of hair where men typically have a lot and I don’t have a job currently.
The life I live is not aligned with my principles.
God damn, I though were being light hearted here. Now I got to go find a dark corner of shame.
My face
Your username makes this my favorite comment
Aside from relationship surprises and having the full Bruce Lee package, the first one that comes to mind is my mum wanted to reuse my grandpa’s unisex name and named me after him despite the gender difference. Despite him being my favorite family member, it feels awkward whenever I’m at gatherings.
Haha. The Honeymooners nose is funny as fuck and as as a fellow ace is can’t imagine how annoying it must be. The universe truly plays mean pranks at times
You know that scene with the guy on the castle wall in Monty Python and the Holy Grail that farts in your general direction?
Yeah, I giggled.A fellow man of culture
I’ve never learnt to dance
