• cryptosporidium140@sh.itjust.works
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    9 months ago

    I didn’t make any life-ruining mistakes, but like others have said I’d make certain investments. And I’d put the eyelid holders from Clockwork Orange on my friend, show him Requiem for a Dream, and hope he learns not to experiment with drugs

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      9 months ago

      I’m glad you figured yourself out. I waited until I was 22 to come out of the closet and until I was in my 30s to dress how I wanted (I didn’t transition, but I do identify as non-comforming and wear clothing that isn’t standard for my gender). It’s extremely comfortable being who you are.

    • StephniBefni@lemmy.world
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      9 months ago

      Same, I waited till I was 27, I’m happy I’m finally there, but it woulda been nice to start 10 years earlier, woulda been a lot better for me mentally especially.

  • Catoblepas@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    9 months ago

    Skipped years of college that didn’t do me any good and just moved out instead of living with my family for another 4 years.

      • LazaroFilm@lemmy.world
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        9 months ago

        That concert was so brutal in terms of sound level. I was in the pit and people were using cigarette filters as earplugs. That’s how loud it was. I’m pretty sure that’s why I have mild tinnitus now.

        • A_Very_Big_Fan@lemmy.world
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          9 months ago

          I went to a Death Grips concert (my first “real” concert) and got in super early, so I ended up in front leaning against the guard rails right in front of a speaker. I only had one ear plug because my friend lost his pair, and god damn the speakers felt like canons against my ears but I wasn’t about to move because I had a great spot with nobody in between me and MC Ride.

          I ran into another friend of mine on my way out of the building, and my ears were so bad I couldn’t understand a word he said lol. Shit was wild, 10/10 would do it again

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      9 months ago

      I don’t understand how people can go to music shows without ear plugs. I don’t even attend metal music, which seem to crank it up to the point of losing sound quality, just for the sake of “bad assery” I guess.

      I feel bad for kids being brought to concerts without them, too.

  • u/lukmly013 💾 (lemmy.sdf.org)@lemmy.sdf.org
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    9 months ago

    Not wasted all the time and actually studied. I am pretty good even at procrastinating starting things I like doing.

    Also, when I was 17 one of the better colleges had a yearly competition in networking (specifically with Cisco devices) where people who scored above 56% would get some larger amount of bonus points at that college. Unfortunately, the number of places was limited, so I didn’t want to take anyone’s opportunity away by signing up, as I wasn’t 100% sure I could do it.
    In the end, 14 people who signed up didn’t even show up. Fuck that!

    Perhaps I could try when it will be held next year. Yeah, future tense. I am still 17. But it’s still the same morale problem. Limited number of opportunities. Not everyone can get the chance, perhaps because of me.
    I don’t know what to do.
    I am not even sure I regret the choice I made. On one hand, I lost an opportunity myself. On the other hand, it feels like I made a right, albeit dumb decision.

    So yeah, back to the question. I will regret fucking up my life. I know I’ll do just that.

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    9 months ago

    I wish I had a solid social network and gone straight to university. Your social network is a vital part of life. I was in an advanced K-12 primary school and wish I had been born to intelligent atheists who valued intelligence. I had teachers that all but wanted to fight my parents about how they neglected my potential, but I had no context to really understand what all that meant.

  • Corroded@leminal.space
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    9 months ago

    I wish I would have taken relationships less seriously. I started dating people when I was young because I thought it was what everyone was doing but I should have been having fun and goofing around.

    Investing in Bitcoin, I suppose, is the other thing. I nearly did it when people were paying multiple Bitcoins for a pizza for the novelty of it but stopped because I couldn’t figure it out at the time.

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    9 months ago

    I wish I had gone straight into college even though I was incredibly depressed and suffering from cptsd.

    I could have been depressed and living in a dorm and possibly getting into wacky adventures or meeting somebody to love me rather than being depressed and living in my truck and scooting from minimum wage job to minimum wage job for 7 years before I finally started to get my shit together.

  • PM_ME_VINTAGE_30S [he/him]@lemmy.sdf.org
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    9 months ago

    Gotten on antidepressants immediately after high school. I would have had my shit completely together by the time I graduated from community college and either succeeded in my original field (music recording) or gone to engineering school and finished before the pandemic.

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      9 months ago

      I thought it was cool to be sad. To be edgy. 20 years later I realized I had just been depressed my entire life. So, my thing would be “get therapy and some meds.” It would have made the next 20 years a lot easier.

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    9 months ago

    Stuff that would theoretically have been possible, in no particular order:

    • develop better study & time management skills so college doesn’t kick my ass nearly so badly
    • walk on to the college’s cross country team. After all, it was a D3 school, they’ll take just about anyone. Would’ve been a great way to avoid putting on 60 pounds in school.
    • spend more time taking advantage of the free therapy sessions in the student health center and maybe God forbid not fall as far into the pit of depression
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      9 months ago

      All of this. Wish I had applied myself and found someone to tell me constant criticism for making mistakes isn’t normal.

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    9 months ago

    Hit the gym brother. Instead of starting my work out journey now in my 30s.

    I was fortunate enough to have had a fast metabolism through out my 20s but starting a workout habit earlier would’ve helped maintain it better.

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      9 months ago

      Yeah i did this then injured myself at 24and spent the last 6 years out of the gym.

      I’m back in now and i am making great progress from previous experience and muscle memory.

      Its not as easy now but i cant imagine starting from nothing at all now.

      Good luck with your journey though.

      Every day you go to the gym is a little closer to improving and the days you dont want to do it and still do are the days you make the most gains.

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          9 months ago

          I crushed the gell between facet joints in my lower back, then i tore the tendon that lets my wrist move side to side out ofbits spot and had to be a reattached.

          Not one afterbthe otherbbut a few years apart causeing a long time out of the gym

          Heavy diesel fitting is a killer to the body