I try to do something to make my presence known because the number of times I’ve frightened a woman by, from her perspective, appearing out of nowhere, is quite high. I’m a pretty quiet walker too.

I also make extra space on the sidewalk or I’ll cross the street at night when I’m overtaking less than 3-4 in a group.

I often “accidentally” drag my feet a little bit to make my footsteps are a little bit more audible.

I’m usually a very quiet walker, so I just want to make sure my presence is known, as opposed to startling people.

Not humming, but I do make noise intentionally. I’m a big guy and understand that I could be threatening to women in the wrong circumstance. I also walk fairly quietly just as a matter of the way I walk; so, I’ve scared folks on more than one occasion by “sneaking” up on them unintentionally. So, if I think I am doing that, I’ll land a few footfalls hard and flat to make my foot slap the ground and alert the person of my presence before I get too close. I also try to give space to strangers while walking. Things like moving to the other side of the sidewalk/street, slowing down or speeding up to pass. Basically, trying to not look like I’m stalking them.

I’m physically quite large, but most people will outrun me for medical reasons, but you can’t tell just by looking at me. It wasn’t until #metoo that I considered what it might be like to walk on the street and be afraid for your safety all the time.

My partner shared a few historic experiences which made me want to throw up.

I’ve read the responses here so far and I’ve done similar things for the same reasons, noise, humming, nodding, etc… I’ll also cross the road if I think my presence might make someone feel uncomfortable, or if I feel uncomfortable.

I have also walked off a footpath onto the verge to give the person coming towards me, space to move.

I’d be interested to hear what that feels like for people who are experiencing this kind of interaction.

Yeah same, I make noise to be less “I’m being sneaky” because I’m not trying to be. It never occurred to me this could be taken as “I’m trying to start a conversation, while not being in your field of view at all and also not saying any words.” I don’t do this when walking with my wife.

Yes.

I started doing that when I was walking back to my dorm in college. It was winter, night fell early, and I didn’t notice someone 10’ ahead of me heading the same way. They got freaked out by the guy following them.

It turned out to be someone who also lived in my dorm, so I “followed” them most of the way home before I realized the issue and called out to them.

We ended up talking for a bit, and I said I’m sorry for scaring them, but the biggest issue was I seemed to come out of nowhere, so when they freaked out they thought I was some creep like, waiting to jump someone.

So yeah, I make noise, for others comfort. I don’t even think about it anymore, it’s just automatic.

The person I followed wasn’t even a woman, he just thought I was gonna mug him, but if I can freak out a 6’2" guy I could freak out anyone by accident.

IDK, maybe, I might be one of those guys and didn’t really notice before.
I don’t believe I do this differently around women vs men.
I’m often too busy in my own head to pay much attention. So, if your body language isn’t sketchy like drunk or overly aggressive, odds are I’ve zoned out and you didn’t register much.

Anyway, I’m a generally silent walker.
If I’m not paying attention, I might end up sneaking up on someone without meaning to, which can then startle them or spook them. Like, I spook my cat often enough and they’re the actual predators.

But yea, late at night, I think I might subconsciously make myself known ahead of time just as a simple courtesy.
I’d rather not find out whether anyone’s more of a fight/flight person when they finally notice me. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Me? I’m the throat clearing guy. Hi. Ahem.

PS: I have 20+ years experience of throat clearing. Yes I’ve seen doctors, they didn’t find anything other than yea we can see inflammation in your vocal chords, no there’s nothing we can do, just stop doing it. That or prescribe random shit that actually fucks up other basic bodily functions and create actual problems.

Anyway, I’m sorry if it’s weird.

Yes, the fear is typically that we don’t want to be accused of following you, sneaking up on you, or being creepy, so there is usually some noise or overt thing we do to try to imply we are just minding our own business.

Sometimes to avoid the situation all together, (let’s say I am walking home at night and I see some woman walking the same direction ahead of me, and I know I am going to end up passing her because my pace is faster), then we will literally cross the street just so that we don’t have to be put in the awkward situation of walking up to and past you at 3 am on a public sidewalk.

There are other things beyond this as well that men do or avoid doing which women might not realize. Most men in my experience are really careful to never be left alone with children for example. No one blinks an eye if a woman is, but men have learned to avoid potential false accusations in this way as well.

A lot of men are fearful to do something as simple as taking their kids to the park because of this. You can search for articles in which fathers who take their own kids to the park have been accused of being pedophiles just for sitting on a bench while their children play, or accused of kidnapping just because they are an adult man with a child in public. You won’t find any articles about this happening with a woman.

If I’m in an elevator alone with a woman or something I will usually just give a friendly nod and adopt a very relaxed posture, like leaning against the wall. The youtuber Contrapoints talked about this exact scenario in one of her videos (a black man whistling in the elevator so she wouldn’t feel scared) and it made me more aware of it.

Yes.

I’m 6’5" and broad but the number of jump scares I cause is ludicrous. Most people (especially women) seem to have no situational awareness to the point where they miss gorillas approaching them.

If it’s a stranger then I’ll try to announce my approach from further away. If it’s someone I know I’ll see how high I can make them jump.

Edit: just saw you label some of these people creeps. They’re not. This is a massive green light that they don’t want to accidentally scare you.

I certainly don’t. I just act like they don’t exist and mind my own business unless they make some effort to engage with me. I’m built like a goblin though so I don’t think I’m particularly scary to most people.

I’ve done similar things. I’ll clear my throat or something if it seems like someone hasn’t noticed my presence.

I took a different approach, I put my keys on a carabiner so I jingle when I walk. It makes it really hard to accidentally startle people.

One time I was out walking someplace and a woman was walking about 20 feet in front of me. I just took out my phone and called my wife and rather loudly announced where I was walking to, asked her about her day etc. The woman visible seemed to relax.

I mostly use my dog as a way to introduce that I am near and mean no harm to anyone not expecting someone following the same path (mostly rather long streched bike&pedestrian roads with no exit but with park benches and geen patches for dogs and so on).

Simply by saying “Dogs Name, are you coming sweety?”.

Announces that I am nearby with a doggy and by no means any poser that wants to appear scary.

At dark day times I mostly have a flashlight with me to shine on my dog and whatever she is currently sniffing (or sneakingly trying to eat…). Which has the sideeffect of her being better visible to others. (She’s a bigger dog with black fur - so some people would be scared of her anyhow. Especially in the dark if there is a barely visible big dog. Which is why I hope to make people not that uncomfortable by speaking softly and shining light on her. (And of couse because bicicle riders need to be able to see her, to not run her over))