• henfredemars@infosec.pub
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    2 days ago

    I have a sample size of one trans friend who started taking male hormones and felt it completely overwhelming. He was absolutely astounded by how intense it was for months on end until he felt he built up some mental fortitude.

    Clearly, it’s not an ideal comparison, and personal experiences are highly individual but I found their experience interesting.

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      as another trans guy i can confirm, T took my libido from “mid, horny sometimes” to “I GET HORNY EVERY DAY AND IF I DON’T FIX IT I LITERALLY CANNOT FOCUS”, in the span of like, no time, literally started with the first or injection

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        I’ve recently had to start hormone replacement. Apparently my T levels were so low I was getting clinically depressed. So I went from half the minimum testosterone levels to slightly above the maximum. Now, I’ve always had a weirdly high libido, and I was afraid I’d have to turn into a recluse. In fact, the opposite happened. I had barely any libido left. I’d jerk off just to test if things even worked, and everything was fine, but it was like I was in constant post-nut clarity. I hated it. I didn’t feel myself anymore, and having focus and clarity while all this shit is happening in the world… Like, the hormones did help with the depression a little bit, but it was offset by the otherness I am feeling.

        Anyway, this rambling is my way to relate, in a way. You went through puberty of sorts, and I’m going through a reverse one. I am having to get to know myself again, unsure as to what is happening to my body, and dealing with the occasional zit.

        BTW, Instead of injecting T, the doctor attempted (successfully!) to kickstart my internal production with a drug that stimulates FSH production, which, in XY equipped hardware, boosts testosterone production. AMAB bodies normally deal with excess T by converting it to estrogen. To avoid that, another drug that blocked it was added. I found it curious how the same messengers are used by both sexes, sometimes with the same outcome, sometimes with completely different outcomes.

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        welcome to the club my man. don’t get me wrong it can be annoying but I’d rather have a never ending boner for the rest of days than have one period. I’m cis so I’ve never experienced it myself but i have enough women friends (and a wife) to know i wouldn’t want it for a day.

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          lmao same, dysphoria was the strongest during periods i hated them with a burning passion. T just made them stop, which is amazing.

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        That’s one of the reasons I’m worried about transitioning. I’m already horny more frequently and intensely than any dude I’ve ever dated. Adding more testosterone to the mix sounds like a bad idea

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          perhaps you’re just manifesting the T horny already :D

          but for real, if you’re sure of being trans and want most of the effects T brings - i’d say do it. i’m not thrilled about my thinning hair, receding hairline, or the acne v2 (this time harder to get rid of), but the bursts of self-hate cause by dysphoria are completely gone, and that makes being so much easier

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          oh ya dw, i’ve been on T for 7 years now, i have it mostly under control. apart from the times when it just doesn’t seem to be going away, body parts already sore, brain still says horny, those days are– something

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            Oh I know those days all too well lol!

            Though ime there is no “control,” just “I will face my horny, I will permit it to pass over me and through me, and when it has gone past I will turn my inner eye to see it’s path, where the horny has gone there will be nothing, only I will remain” lol. So lucky you lmao!

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      I would be fascinated to talk to this person. As a straight cis male dude guy, this is just all day, every day. It’d be like hearing someone describe the sun who’s never been outside before in their whole life.

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      thanks for sharing; it’s wildly interesting! he’s one of a small number of people who can speak for two different modes of physical/hormonal makeup.