• Mossy Feathers (She/Her)@pawb.social
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    If getting messaged once a week or so to ask if you wanna hang is “smothering” and “risk pushing” you away, then maybe, just maybe, the problem is not the dude messaging.

    ???

    What?

    Where in OP’s post was this mentioned?

    Are you okay?

    It’s not a tightrope walk, a friendship is built on mutual respect. Feeling left out and lonely because there is no reciprocation whatsoever is normal. Calling this OP’s fault is extremely toxic, holy shit. If it’s a tightrope walk, you didn’t wanna be friends from the very beginning and are bad at communicating your intent.

    You still have to maintain a middle ground, and blaming the other for a lack of interest like OP’s meme seems to imply, is not the correct way of doing things either. That is also extremely toxic, and it’s the kind of behavior I mainly see people who tend to smother or cling to others engage in. Being smothering or clingy is not even remotely healthy and will absolutely drive people away.

    • Karyoplasma@discuss.tchncs.de
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      Where in OP’s post was this mentioned?

      Nowhere, to be fair. The meme just struck a nerve with a past experience of mine and it hurt. My bad.