If stage fright is the fear that one has, when performing
Then inbox fright is the fear/dread I have, when it comes to getting replies or reactions, after I post…
Especially if its related to political content
You never know if you’re going to pulled into a struggle session over something and sent nasty messages, overall
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Maybe at work. Getting an email at work means… well, work.
What’s a struggle session?
Inbox fright is an interesting term. I certainly know and can relate to what you are talking about.
It doesn’t affect me too much I don’t think, but I know the feeling you are talking about. And I wonder how related or intersecting to/with social anxiety it is.
I had this when I was younger, too. Today, I don’t mind if someone posts or messages me nasty stuff, I either ignore it completely or just block this person and move on. There is no use getting frightened because of some internet stranger who decided that today is the day to type random bullshit to someone he doesn’t even know.
It doesn’t bother me at all. I made a comment, someone replied, there is no need at all to continue the discussion unless I want to.
Talking to people is why I’m here so I am the exact opposite
Little hit of dopamine each time, amirite?
Exactly!
Ding dong.
Hi, I’m replying so you can have a little number by your bell. Have a great March!
You too!
Me too!
You too as well! (just continuing the chain)
If I’ve posted once in a day, and it’s gone against the grain in a particularly emotive topic discussion - then yeah I can’t say I’ve not said “oh here we fucking go” when I’ve seen the little badge with a number on it that’s not 1, because that’s usually when I’ve posted a YouTube link and the bot picks it up.
In fairness, 70% of it is a valid dissenting opinion to my own and I’ve got the opportunity to learn from someone else’s view, even if I’m still not convinced.
29% of the negative comments are just fannies just picking up a point which isn’t entirely clear and then interprets it in a way that’s logically and factually disingenuous to prove some sort of point, and I can count on one hand in the last thirty years or so the number of times that I’ve rattled someone’s cage to the point where they feel the need to PM me death threats or offer physical violence - by that point I’ve already figured out that they’re either deeply hurting and it’s manifesting itself in that way, or they’re deeply unwell and it’s well outside my skillset to help.
Lemmy overall is much more open to debate than Reddit, and the downvote button is used less of a “disagree” or “fuck you” button than it was on the latter site.
On here, replies and reactions make me excited. Generally speaking we’re all comrades of some degree here. On a cesspool like
I often get dread over the chuds who could potentially harass meIt’s important to remember that you don’t owe it to anyone to engage in a comment fight. If someone decides to be grouchy and try to pull you into an argument, you can just ignore it and move on with your day.
I post a lot of memes across Lemmy, and you’d be surprised (or maybe not) how often someone goes out of their way to be upset and attempt to bait me or others into arguing with them. I think some people just enjoy being mad, but I’m not one of them, so I’ve decided that it’s not worth the mental energy to engage with that.
I don’t think it’s that people like being mad. I think it’s that they just care about things and think they’re important. It’s very nice to be able to be carefree, but a lot of people place things like honour or duty or morality above their own happiness at times.
honour or duty or morality
Replying to posts online shouldn’t be sufficient to fulfill those things for you anyway. Go outside and be useful if that’s so what you find fulfilling. It’s highly unlikely you’ll change anyone’s mind on social media. People use it to have their biases reinforced.
Leaning into the “ThePicardManuever is half of lemmy” meme, it would be terrible if you (or anyone!) were cowed by downvotes
What’s in your anonymous inbox can’t hurt you irl. If they’re right, or make an argument that convinces you, you can always say so. If they’re personally hurtful you can block them. Meanwhile reflect that their nasty comments say more to the rest of us about them than you.
Imagine being able to walk into a bar and block anyone obnoxious from interacting with you, wouldn’t that be peaceful…
Edit to add: you’re probably going to get more posted comments from people who don’t experience inbox fright than from those who do. So keep in mind there’s a circle of silent friends supporting you!
In my experience, I’m far less likely to encounter aggressive and unpleasant people in a club or a bar than I am online. I don’t fear social situations, and I even speak and perform regularly in front of large groups, but I get the feeling OP has. When I find an online community where I don’t get the really rabid comments in my inbox, I tend to fixate on it and post only there.
Maybe on a messaging platform with IRL people, but never on somewhere like Lemmy. If anything, I really enjoy seeing that number go up! 59 unreads right now (I never check the box, the only way they go is replies).
Yes. Mostly people on Lemmy are positive, but every so often some nutsack turns up.
sees 1 new notification oh cool someone responded to something let’s see what it is
5 notifications hmm. Well something I commented on must have hit the front page / trending
22 notifications oh god what community decided to take issue with me now… (after blocking a few instances, the amount of gif and emoji spam on my inbox has drastically reduced)
Exactly the same lmao. If I have more than 10 notifications I’m asking myself what I did
Oh yeah. Big time. Stems from a broader social anxiety, in my case.
I used to on reddit back when it was a game of Reddit 50/50 if you were going to get a normal comment or gaslighting attempts from a nazi.
Booo
