^ ^ (*. u.*) me . . . . . .I bought a guy flowers once and he was beaming with joy
Probably the first time anyone had made that kind of gesture to him.
If a woman compliments me I’ll assume she wants to harvest my kidneys.
Train of thought always goes:
Am I about to be robbed? Does she want me to sign up to something? Are my kidneys still there?
Maybe, maybe, yes for now.
I reckon it’s pretty universally human to appreciate validation in any form.
Yeah, say literally anything nice about me and it makes my day better. And I’m just a regular dude, I’ve got a pretty good life, but compliments are awesome. A compliment complements a nice day really well, and can help to turn a bad day around.
Oddly enough, I also like giving them. It’s all good.
Well, lets be honest.
Men in general do not put any (or at least as much) work in their appearance as women. When was the last time you or any man you know took over an hour to get ready because they were doing their skin routine?
There is definitely a significant cultural influence on this, obviously starting at a young age.
But as someone who did put an effort into their appearance during my college days, women did notice.
My niece has been getting heavily into skincare. As long as we’re being honest, most of a typical “skincare routine” is placebo, and some of it is actively counter-productive. I know a few women who have a laissez-faire approach to skincare, and their results are almost as good. I believe that the routine is more about the ritual, and psychic need to try to gain some measure of control in a crazy society, than results.
Boys are wecking their bodies because we have convinced ourselves that looking like Thor is normal
We didn’t do nothing, that’s all the media!
Controlled by men, appealing to the male ideal!
Ah, so those boys deserve it.
Why would you think men can’t victimize men?
Didn’t say that. How come you don’t think men can be victims?
well the recent explosion of barbershops all around my country tell a different story
At this point, if someone complements me, my first thought is “Well that’s a fucking lie, they want something”.
I’ve had women ask me out who had literally never said a positive thing about my appearance a singular time before hand.
Because it’s rude to comment on the physical appearance of strangers
I wish I felt less socially awkward about making positive comments about others appearances.
Asking me out is a step beyond complimenting my appearance though.
If they were so bold as to ask me out they weren’t afraid of coming off as creepy.
I need it, desperately. My gf knows this, pays me compliments, and every single one is a core memory for me. Also working out and getting a bit swole means you get a lot of compliments from the boys, which is also nice.
I was playing some drinking game with a few of my friends a couple months ago and one of the cards resulted in me having to take my shirt off, ever since then 2 of them have been gassing me up about what good shape I’m in and mentioning it to the rest of them about how I’m in good shape. I don’t work out to get compliments but I’d be lying if I said my self esteem hasn’t gone through the roof since this started.
I just got back from a doc visit for a shoulder injury. They told me “yea sometimes muscular guys like you fool us and we miss a tear because their delts are overcompensating”
All I heard was “you’re muscular”, going to be riding that high for a bit. Luckily no rotator cuff tear, probably just a bad sprain, will be back to bench press soon enough
If you really want to make a man’s day, compliment them on their dick.
I do the same at the urinals
Sometimes I get a “yours too” back
Ehm, no, it’s just a dick.
I try and compliment my husband often! He is bad at accepting compliments so I keep trying!
That is awesome! And he doesn’t need to accept it for it to be good for him. Exposure is often highly influential.
‘Guys don’t need validation’?
Bish some girl in the 90s told me I looked good in black and it informed every single clothes purchase I have made since
A PTA mom in the '90s told me she would kill for my hair and I’ve kept it long ever since
… because you wanted to have your hair stolen off your corpse, by her?
Not quite, but now I think I realize why I’ve got a thing for milves.
Oh is that what that’s supposed to look like conjugated?
You mean pluralized? Yeah, similar for “Smurves.”
What, you just go through life not daring people to try it? His long hair says: “See what happens. I dare you.”
We don’t need it. We still like it, but we don’t need it.
That was my thought too. And not a snarky one, but a genuine one.
I remember once, giving a civil smile, while thinking ‘meh’, on receiving a compliment once. Because I felt that the complement was for the sake of complementing, but at the same time, the words were +ive, so I felt the need to respond positively.
Well, no. Just because we can survive without it doesn’t mean we don’t need it!
(Though honestly, your reaction was my first snarky thought too!)
Shen has a new artstyle? Is that his new avatar or is that a separate character?
I could be wrong, but I think they’ve been playing around with their style a bit while still maintaining some identifiable characteristics
Dudes complimenting dudes. It doesn’t have to be weird. If you see a dude in a cool shirt or whatever, just say “hey thats a cool shirt.”
Nice dick bro
lol I told some of my coworkers, “how’re you doing you beautiful man” … they’re like, “thank you for saying that”
of course, you have to have a certain relationship where it doesn’t come off too weird but dudes complimenting dudes should be normalised.
I wonder if dudes complimenting other dudes mainly applies to like “skills”. Like you’re a great fisherman or driver or coder or something. I wonder if those are more typical?
Compliments shouldn’t be boxed into ‘well I can only say them when this happens’ imo.
If you are impressed by something, say something. Everyone loves getting a compliment
Edit: although yeah keep the beautiful comments between mates haha. No judgements, I’ve given “gay” compliments to my best buds to hype them up
lol, well … let me clarify the “beautiful” comment …
so a coworker won “Most Attractive Employee” or something like that, yes it’s a weird company party. Anyways, the next morning I was using it pseudo-sarcastically in front of everyone by calling him a beautiful person in front of everyone. However, my other coworker thought I was talking about him and said “thank you”. However, it made him smile and I just started doing it all the time to my fellow coworkers. I definitely consider them all mates.
What’s funny is that I actually don’t compliment my female coworkers the same way. I feel as though it could be misconstrued and I’d not like that.
Nah bro. I feel you. Honestly, I don’t find that weird at all.
That second guy smiling cause he was called beautiful is exactly what im talking about. Would he have liked to be called that by a chick? Almost definitely. But dudes are so starved of compliments that it coming from anyone is just nice.
But yeah the whole wont do the same to women is completely valid. I’m the same way. I’ll only compliment them if theyre wearing something extravagant and are specifically looking to get complimented.
But women get compliments all the time that are actually advances on them, so I try to limit them so I don’t seem like a creep. Dudes though? We all want to be lifted up so I hand em out freely.
