Thats not fair at all, you ever see a dude wanting to fight and you tell him to calm down. I think telling pissed people to cool out just fires them up.
I wonder if that would work, like you just start getting mad at them for how half hearted they are about the whole thing. Start saying ‘if you are only going to be 10% tough about this shit you should just sit down’
I keep waiting for one of these drama scenes where someone grabs another dude’s gun and points it at their head to end with the guy saying “okay” and pulling the trigger.
Does anyone want to hear my far cry 3 headcanon that the gun in the beginning was unloaded and vaas was just going to recruit whoever pulls the trigger?
No? Well too bad you already read it. It really sounds like something he’d do to me.
Yeah, I feel like there’s rarely a “calm down” window for the men that need to hear it. There’s calm, then there’s hurting themselves by breaking things or hurting other people. “You need to calm the fuck down!” is likely to work, whereas “You need to calm down” will only make things work.
Insecurities fuelled by testosterone. Where fisty cuffing anything appears to be a positive step toward sound resolution.
I think you are right I think a lot of men just have a snapping line, where they will bottle it all up till they pop and if they would have just not bottled they could have been spun down a bit.
you know I think its all the knight bullshit a lot of males feel. Like hey man calm down this shit isnt worth it, but at the same time its only the bigger then you guys that will say it as the ones the same size are like man I dont wanna get punched or become the focus. But this is just a hot take on the idea.
Thats not fair at all, you ever see a dude wanting to fight and you tell him to calm down. I think telling pissed people to cool out just fires them up.
Tell them to get angrier and short circuit them instead.
Bonus points if you’re completely uninvolved and just walking past an argument.
I wonder if that would work, like you just start getting mad at them for how half hearted they are about the whole thing. Start saying ‘if you are only going to be 10% tough about this shit you should just sit down’
I mean, I’d get madder, but anything but “I’m sorry” or “fuck you this is (and actually is) your fault jackass” is going to make me madder.
“Pop off, motherfucker, I DARE you!”
*POW*
I keep waiting for one of these drama scenes where someone grabs another dude’s gun and points it at their head to end with the guy saying “okay” and pulling the trigger.
Does anyone want to hear my far cry 3 headcanon that the gun in the beginning was unloaded and vaas was just going to recruit whoever pulls the trigger?
No? Well too bad you already read it. It really sounds like something he’d do to me.
Yeah, the only way that I’ve found really works is to use “I” statements.
How it works
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Yeah, I feel like there’s rarely a “calm down” window for the men that need to hear it. There’s calm, then there’s hurting themselves by breaking things or hurting other people. “You need to calm the fuck down!” is likely to work, whereas “You need to calm down” will only make things work.
Insecurities fuelled by testosterone. Where fisty cuffing anything appears to be a positive step toward sound resolution.
I think you are right I think a lot of men just have a snapping line, where they will bottle it all up till they pop and if they would have just not bottled they could have been spun down a bit.
“We’re gonna be like three little Fonzies here. And what’s Fonzie like?”
For some reason big guys LOVE telling little guys to calm down – even if they’re not really mad 😡 .
The physical inequality, just like OP’s example, always makes it more egregious.
you know I think its all the knight bullshit a lot of males feel. Like hey man calm down this shit isnt worth it, but at the same time its only the bigger then you guys that will say it as the ones the same size are like man I dont wanna get punched or become the focus. But this is just a hot take on the idea.