• My knee still doesn’t feel right after that hiking trip two weeks ago.
  • I started listening to really old music.

Have I crossed the threshold?

    • Alice@beehaw.org
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      8 months ago

      Same. I’ve had shit joints since I was a kid. Sometimes I feel like I got a head start on aging 😛

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        Oh to be young again. I remember questioning whether I was old or not. Embrace your youth, it’s nearly gone…

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      I mostly listen to music from my parents’ youth. Growing up I listened to the oldies station a whole lot (Oldies 98.1 used to be so good!). I’m Gen X, they’re boomers. So classic rock is definitely in the mix, but also artists like Petula Clark, the Supremes, Tommy James and the Shondells, etc. There’s a great station on SiriusXM called '60s Gold that I listen to pretty much every day.

      And then when I need a change, I switch to New Wave / post-punk or Grunge.

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    Nope, you’re describing not being young, that’s nothing like being actually old. Growing old has a bunch of stages:

    • joint pain

    • can no longer dance all night

    • hangovers last all day

    • dentists start talking to you about your gums

    But then you get to the phase of

    • skin losing elasticity

    • liking dinner parties

    • marijuana is now a medicine

    • developed distinct preferences about stuff like threadcount

    And then after that the next phase is more like

    • a lot of time worrying about your parents

    • all body fat migrates to one or two of its favourite spots

    • seriously consider putting everything on lanyards

    • your favourite singers are all dead

    And so on, you get the picture. That’s as far as I’ve traveled but as far as I can see the phases after that involve things like bladder leakage and losing friends to alzheimers.

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      Yeah, for me the big thing wasn’t even that my belly is becoming more and more of an issue despite my weight being the same, it was how how many cancer checkups are all of a sudden free and done regularly and how doctors always do a routine full checkup no matter why I went there. (am 40+)

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      Multiple of your friends have cancer, died of cancer, or of other illnesses. But mostly the cancer.

      You wonder if your bowels are OK. They are not.

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        Seeing a lot of my dad’s friends starting to drop off has hit me and made me prize my own relationships more. Every day is a choice you make for what you prioritize.

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      Stage one: Effortful noise when rising from a low chair/sofa

      Stage two: Inability to rise from a low chair/sofa. Beanbag? Nooooo….

      My own turning point was finding myself unable to get out of the bath by just standing up. It was comic but also terrifying. I eventually worked out I could lever myself up with my arms. Phew.

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      I’m getting toward the last, my favorite singers are dying. My wife and I just saw the B-52s in concert. They are in their mid seventies. They were in their thirties when I started listening to them. Ugh.

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      I remember my mom telling me about phases of life as she experienced them:

      • All your friends start getting married, you go to a lot of weddings
      • All your friends start having kids, you go to a lot of baby showers
      • Many of your friends start getting divorced, and you have to deal with trying to be friends with the former couple separately
      • Many of your friends get married a second time, weddings again
      • Many of your friends start having grandkids

      At the time she concluded with “Some those were hard, but it was all okay. But now, all my friends are dying…”

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      fuck, this is accurate. i recognized myself in everything you wrote. (age 50ies)

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      My mom once planned a trip up to my city with some of her friends to see a concert, they made plans a few weeks out but by the time the day arrived, she was coming up for two funerals, the group was smaller by two people. She told me “can’t make long range plans when you are old, go see people right away because if you wait they might be dead!”

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      I worried about my mum constantly since I was only 14/15, she had heart disease and died three years ago at 54. My dad also has heart problems, copd, diabetes, psoriasis and arthritis in his hands. He’s only 55 and I don’t know if he’ll even live to retirement age. I’m only 27.

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        Sorry friend, that sounds really hard. I’m really sorry you lost your mum.

        Someone I knew with colitis said it calmed down by itself after about a decade, so I hope that happens to you.

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        It is treated, it’s better to go on a diet, for example VLCD or something (go to pubmed) ⚠️Аnd of course, consult a doctor before dieting.

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    i think people are way too worried about being old while not enjoying the youth they have left right now

    you can always be and feel older

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      I remember someone referred to a song as old, and it was maybe 4 years old.

      It felt new to me, but he called it old. Is 4 years the cut off? Lol

      (Though some people do just listen to the top 20, but I seek out classics and indie stuff)

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    The most depressing sign is your parents that were once invincible are now having concerning health issues

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      A couple of years ago my dad, who has always been heavy into cycling and never had a weight problem, had a quadruple bypass. He was 72 or 73 at the time. He was always so healthy and fit, but the men in his family hoard arterial plaque like crazy. It was really sobering to see him go through that, and especially to see how lost my mom was while he was recovering. And my mom has osteoporosis; she’s getting treatment for it but she’s afraid to do much more than a brisk walk because if she falls, she could easily break her spine or pelvis. And she’s only 67!

      It’s really depressing seeing them get old. I visited them over the weekend and we watched old camcorder tapes*. Seeing them younger than I am now was so weird; I didn’t realize my mental image of them has aged along with them, if that makes sense. But watching those tapes, all I could think was how strong and youthful they both looked!

      *Seeing myself as an awkward teenager with braces and huge glasses was godawful, do not recommend!

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    8 months ago

    Sorry to confirm your suspicions, buddy. Be careful if there’s always at least one process of fermentation going on under your roof.

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    • A general feeling of alienation from society. Particularly younger people.
    • Dislike of ‘modern’ music.
    • Nostalgia over the way things used to be as you have lived long enough to witness the enshittification.
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      I like the enshittification one. Old(er) people say how much better things were back in the day, but we just say that’s rose tinted glasses because actually e.g. violent crime was much higher.

      Then we tell the younger generation that the web used to be so much better and they are all “yes, grandpa, that’s great grandpa”.

      But it was better! I swear it was!

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        Except you feel this even if you’re in your 20s. It’s not exactly an old thing lol

        Hell, even over the last 3 years it’s super obvious

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          Hmm, I think back to say the early 2000s, before digg and reddit but after static websites. I never got the opportunity to use Usenet but random forums all running on PHPBB and later, Invision Power Board, with some other software thrown in.

          Ok, that might be rose tinted glasses, as that was the first experience of user-led content rather than static sites (unless you count geocities).

          Digg, and later Reddit, was a sort of bringing together of these different forums into one platform. It was great at the time, but so was 1GB of free email when other free email providers were doing 5MB and we all know how that turned out…

          Man, I’m feeling half nostalgic and half old talking about seeing the birth of Gmail and the first mainstream social media and the first iPhone. My kids hear my stories about the days before smart phones and the days before aeroplanes and think of them as the same kinda time frame.

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            Forums are starting to make a comeback, reddit is shit for a lot of historical style discussions(like on going threads) and Facebook groups and discord are completely trash for it as well. I’m seeing a lot of the forums I used to visit start to pick back up.

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                Yep, I don’t see them getting massive like they used to be, but definitely not as dead as they have been for the last 10 years or so. I don’t know if it’s just the generation that grew up with the old net or if there is a sprinkle of the new younger generation helping though.

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        Instagram is always the one that springs to mind for me. It was amazing in the early days before Facebook bought it and turned it into the monstrosity it is now. I was an early user of it. It was quirky, it was fun, the community was much smaller and people didn’t care about how many likes they got. It was actual photography and was more personal. Not the ad-infested self-promoting shallow bullshit it is now.

        Old Instagram > New Instagram is the absolute peak of enshittification for me. It’s genuinely awful now.